08-07-2011, 06:45 AM
I've been with my boyfriend for about 5 months now, and horror of horrors... I've only ever cum once with him this entire time.
I just can't seem to ever get there. EVER (definitely don't have this problem when solo).
It would appear to be a combination of him being my first, him being a little on the lazy side in bed & me not getting what I want out of it.
I think another big part of the problem may be that I love anal a bit too much.
Any time we've done it in the past (which unfortunately is few- he's not that into it; even though I'm taking), this is the closest I ever get to organically cumming during play.
He only really likes rolling around, touching & sucking. Which is enough for him but for me is only stimulating for about 10 minutes -I can barely even stay erect for longer than that... it just doesn't do it for me!
Is it normal to feel so unstimulated by sex with a partner?? Are we perhaps just not a good bed-match?
I just can't seem to ever get there. EVER (definitely don't have this problem when solo).
It would appear to be a combination of him being my first, him being a little on the lazy side in bed & me not getting what I want out of it.
I think another big part of the problem may be that I love anal a bit too much.
Any time we've done it in the past (which unfortunately is few- he's not that into it; even though I'm taking), this is the closest I ever get to organically cumming during play.
He only really likes rolling around, touching & sucking. Which is enough for him but for me is only stimulating for about 10 minutes -I can barely even stay erect for longer than that... it just doesn't do it for me!
Is it normal to feel so unstimulated by sex with a partner?? Are we perhaps just not a good bed-match?