Advice

[xxxx]

I need some help in bed. I am straight,but bi-curious. I know gays are great in bed and know all about erections. I am married. I am not totally impotent, but can sometimes get it up. When having sex I penetrate, but it goes limp. My wife stimulates my balls and even rear, but objects to putting her finger in me, which I would like. I felt maybe a cock ring or cock cage and something in my rectum might help. But I hesitate to do that because she might feel it. I have even thought about having her reach out to some one who is well hung. I would even be into watching. Any advice on some toys that might help me. Yes, I take viagra, but it does not help completely. I am a long time diabetic and older man.

Second part, question. There is a neighbor who is big and tall. I have fantasied about makinng love to him and he using me. How can I seduce him, without getting my head knocked off. I have never had gay sex, but reallly interested.

[pellaz]

I need some help in bed ... I am straight, but bi-curious. I am married ... and older man.

some how you got to this point in your life and you have more to go. i just hope you find a way to enjoy things with out taking down what you already have. i really wish our society would better acknowledge individual's sexuality is so decent married partners dont have so much pain and regret. you know if you cant talk it over with your partner its off limits and this holds for gay, straight, bi, old or young.

I need some help in bed. My wife stimulates my balls and even rear, but objects to putting her finger in me, which I would like. I felt maybe a cock ring or cock cage and something in my rectum might help. But I hesitate to do that because she might feel it. I have even thought about having her reach out to some one

you two really need to talk. respect her limits and ask her how she would feel trying some things different? especially with your body, its your body dude.
-pick a nice place, both of you go to a sex shop or on line.
-try putting out a towel, lube or toys for the sex.

I need some help in bed ... Second part, question. There is a neighbor who is big and tall. I have fantasied about making love to him and he using me. How can I seduce him, without getting my head knocked off. I have never had gay sex, but really interested.

there are several things very bad here:
-my guess he is younger. i dont know what the proper physc behind this is but sexing a younger is a fail. maybe its along the lines; for example i have a 29year old daughter and thus i would not appreciate having a 20 or 30 something as a sex partner.
-keep your pants on in your neighborhood. you dont know the risk here and its not worth it.
-people's sexuality is not going to change even if you want it to. the gay and bi population is small so chances are he is straight. its called respect, let him be.

I need some help in bed ... I have never had gay sex, but really interested.

i saved this to last but its most important:
you are going to do what you want. all good but brush up on what HIV, HEP-C can do to the wife on a permanent basis for the rest of her live. your are risking both people's quality of life. dont be ignorant on getting tested, safer sex. a boy will tell you anything.
-there are many personal safety issues seeing some off of carigslist.org

find a way to enjoy things with out taking down what you already have.
cheers.

[marshlander]

Diabetes has some awful effects, sorry to hear it. If your relationship with your wife is otherwise good would it make more sense to try and explore your needs with her? You say she can't bring herself to penetrate you. Would she consider it if she wore latex gloves? Whilst stimulation around the anus and of the prostate can be very nice many men find they actually lose an erection when being penetrated anally. Many men find a cock-ring helps keep the blood where it should be. Why would you worry about her feeling it? She might enjoy a little extra rigidity. I realise this is more difficult if she is opposed to toys as a matter of principle.

Regarding playing away, I'd second pellaz. Don't crap on your own doorstep and be very careful what you bring back. Only you will know where you and your wife stand on any other issues associated with sex outside the marriage. If your wife is up for opening up the relationship to a third party you could find a whole new world. I wonder whether, if you both decide to go down that road, you might be advised to have your first few encounters with others who are already on that scene?