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02-07-2008, 03:53 PM

saltybeanz Wrote:You were in a civil partnership? Wowzer.

Yup. One of the first to have one when it became legal other year.
Believe me , it's not all its cracked up to be, and wont be making the same mistake again in future.

02-07-2008, 03:57 PM

ashleo78 Wrote:Yup. One of the first to have one when it became legal other year.
Believe me , it's not all its cracked up to be, and wont be making the same mistake again in future.

I'm sorry for you Ashleo. It sounds like a sad experience.
Well in order not to make the same mistake, you'd have to meet the really right person, eh? Not that you NEED to take on their name. That was a choice, wasn't it?

Mark · 02-07-2008, 04:02 PM

ashleo78 Wrote:Yup. One of the first to have one when it became legal other year.
Believe me , it's not all its cracked up to be, and wont be making the same mistake again in future.

What was it like? Sorry if you dont want to speak about it just, ive never known anyone which has gone through with it.

02-07-2008, 04:42 PM

Like in what sense ?.. actually being in one, or the actual ceremony that took place ?

Mark · 02-07-2008, 04:43 PM

ashleo78 Wrote:Like in what sense ?.. actually being in one, or the actual ceremony that took place ?

Well both.

02-07-2008, 04:57 PM

The ceremony is very short, approx 15-20 mins. The registrar says most of the stuff although you can include your own short vows. You can add a poetry reading if u want to. Then its the usual exchange and blessing of the rings.

Being in one felt no different to be honest than being in a normal long term relationship. The only benefit you get from one is being able to be called your partners next of kin.

The arguments became more frequent after I had mine, which in turn led to the split.

Mark · 02-07-2008, 04:59 PM

Ahh that sucks.. Hmm when did the split occur.. Is it messy like alot of divorces?

02-07-2008, 05:11 PM

We split 25th September 2007..why I remember the date exactly I dont know.

It hasn't been that messy as i wasn't interested in claiming half of anything (that gets expensive with solicitors involved). The first part of the dissolution was granted end of last month by the court. Now have 6 weeks to apply for the final order then I can take back my surname and move on fully with my life.

Mark · 02-07-2008, 06:07 PM

ashleo78 Wrote:We split 25th September 2007..why I remember the date exactly I dont know.

It hasn't been that messy as i wasn't interested in claiming half of anything (that gets expensive with solicitors involved). The first part of the dissolution was granted end of last month by the court. Now have 6 weeks to apply for the final order then I can take back my surname and move on fully with my life.

Ah good luck for that! And of course your going to remember, you lost a big part of your life. -Hugs x

02-07-2008, 06:16 PM

saltybeanz Wrote:Ah good luck for that! And of course your going to remember, you lost a big part of your life. -Hugs x

I didn't lose it lol I know where it is, I just chose to leave it behind thats all lol. but hey ..water under the bridge. Keep the hugs coming..you got catching up to do lol xx