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[usernamego]

So I'm a young bi boy in a relationship with an older daddy. It's very satisfying for both of us. He is very dominant and I am very submissive. A strong aspect of this is that daddy has a much bigger penis than me, and I really am sexually excited by this and enjoy my smallness compared to him. Daddy's teasing me about our big/small penis dynamic is part of the excitement.

Is this a problem?? Is it OK to enjoy sexual humiliation along these lines? Have other people done this? I am not experienced with many kinds of sex and just kind of fell into this. And yeah, I think it partly has to do with feelings about my father. I would clarify that I have only been exploring my feelings about my father in sexual ways that have been healthy and growthful for me.

Also: is there a risk of STD transmission when I receive a facial?

Thanks.

[AlephNull]

So I'm a young bi boy in a relationship with an older daddy. It's very satisfying for both of us. He is very dominant and I am very submissive. A strong aspect of this is that daddy has a much bigger penis than me, and I really am sexually excited by this and enjoy my smallness compared to him. Daddy's teasing me about our big/small penis dynamic is part of the excitement.

Is this a problem?? Is it OK to enjoy sexual humiliation along these lines? Have other people done this? I am not experienced with many kinds of sex and just kind of fell into this. And yeah, I think it partly has to do with feelings about my father. I would clarify that I have only been exploring my feelings about my father in sexual ways that have been healthy and growthful for me.

Also: is there a risk of STD transmission when I receive a facial?

Thanks.

Well, first, how big is your penis? Because various studies have found that the VAST majority of males have penis size 4.5in erect to 6.5in erect. Lots of guys I know think they have small penis because they have seen too many porno films, when in fact their penis falls in the average range.

But hey, if you have a small penis and you like it, and how your partner treats it, then why change?

[Bowyn Aerrow]

As long as both of you are consenting adults its perfectly fine.

There is nothing unhealthy to the sexual 'humiliation' as long as you both enjoy it. If it is part of the whole Dom/Sub (Daddy/Son) routine for you two and no one is getting hurt (emotionally) then by all means go on and have fun.

A lot of subs do prefer their Doms to be larger than them - either taller, or more muscular, or with a larger package, larger hands, even older - all of these and more. There is more than just sexual excitement going on more often than not there is a sense of security, safety and other deeper emotions that relates to the 'strong male' role and the 'weaker boy' role.

His greater age (as example) also conveys much more than just excitement, he is wiser, more knowledgeable, thus more capable of 'dominating' you in and out of bed (most likely a lot more out of bed than you may know). And still there is a sense of security there that you need - this is not a 'bad' thing unless you do not want it and it is hurting you. Age conveys a lot, since he is older, he knows more and is the natural 'leader' to your partnership thus it makes sense that you are more submissive to his greater wisdom.

The flip side to this is most doms feel a deep sense of gratification from being the provider/protector thus 'get off' on being larger - thus conveying that they are 'able' to protect, provide, etc. Older males who have relationships with younger men usually also feel that they are filling a 'mentor' or 'teacher' role - and not just sexual, but in the various other aspects of the relationship.

All of this is largely due to the way we humans evolved. While this isn't a straight relationship a lot of the concepts that male/female relationships have (evolving the differences between men and women) crosses over into gay relationships. Thus the man is larger than the woman, and the act of male penetration carries with it the instinctual undercurrent of his ability to provide, protect, etc.

Humiliation is practiced by many, as well as role playing and even bondage and torture where the whole dominating/submissive thing is played out. The S&M community (Master/Slave) usually tend to have much stronger, healthier relationships than the rest of us. Mostly because before the sex starts they sit down and openly discuss limits, safe words and explore the needs of each other. Something that the rest of us rarely do.

Since this is an 'issue' or a point of question for you I suggest you talk to your partner,let him know how you feel and ask him what he thinks.

As for facials. As long as it doesn't get in the eyes and as long as you haven't just recently shaved (shaving leaves micro scratches that can open the top layer(s) of skin to many infections) then the spread of STD's is minimal

[pellaz]

... is there a risk of STD transmission when I receive a facial? ...

Generally i would put it at low risk. With all thats been said on HIV and various STD transmission i am thinking along the lines you need to visit a local free health clinic for your self, quickly. Get tested and ask lots of questions. When was your partner tested? After you have been tested you need to have a talk with him about this. If he is not totally out with you bail.

Is it OK to enjoy sexual humiliation along these lines? .. just kind of fell into this.

Enjoy it while it lasts, if not forever. Most likely you will want to move on tho. Have an exit plan. Set your limits.

[zeon]

hello,
whatever floats your boat in the bedroom is ok as its between two adults... If my partner was to behafve and take the piss out my manhood i think id tell him to go fuck himself and not bother with the relationship as things like that you cant help but if your cool with it and with your partjner then its cool

[Almac]

For a start I don't think humiliation is really a good basis for any relationship. I was wondering that part about you calling your partner 'Daddy' still whatever makes you a happy person should be OK I suppose??

[zeon]

For a start I don't think humiliation is really a good basis for any relationship. I was wondering that part about you calling your partner 'Daddy' still whatever makes you a happy person should be OK I suppose??

I dont understand why partners refer to their boyfriends as daddy lol... I mean id go mad if i found out my brrother ever called his girlfriend mummy!!

[LateBloomer]

As long as both of you are consenting adults its perfectly fine.

There is nothing unhealthy to the sexual 'humiliation' as long as you both enjoy it. If it is part of the whole Dom/Sub (Daddy/Son) routine for you two and no one is getting hurt (emotionally) then by all means go on and have fun.

A lot of subs do prefer their Doms to be larger than them - either taller, or more muscular, or with a larger package, larger hands, even older - all of these and more. There is more than just sexual excitement going on more often than not there is a sense of security, safety and other deeper emotions that relates to the 'strong male' role and the 'weaker boy' role.

His greater age (as example) also conveys much more than just excitement, he is wiser, more knowledgeable, thus more capable of 'dominating' you in and out of bed (most likely a lot more out of bed than you may know). And still there is a sense of security there that you need - this is not a 'bad' thing unless you do not want it and it is hurting you. Age conveys a lot, since he is older, he knows more and is the natural 'leader' to your partnership thus it makes sense that you are more submissive to his greater wisdom.

The flip side to this is most doms feel a deep sense of gratification from being the provider/protector thus 'get off' on being larger - thus conveying that they are 'able' to protect, provide, etc. Older males who have relationships with younger men usually also feel that they are filling a 'mentor' or 'teacher' role - and not just sexual, but in the various other aspects of the relationship.

All of this is largely due to the way we humans evolved. While this isn't a straight relationship a lot of the concepts that male/female relationships have (evolving the differences between men and women) crosses over into gay relationships. Thus the man is larger than the woman, and the act of male penetration carries with it the instinctual undercurrent of his ability to provide, protect, etc.

Humiliation is practiced by many, as well as role playing and even bondage and torture where the whole dominating/submissive thing is played out. The S&M community (Master/Slave) usually tend to have much stronger, healthier relationships than the rest of us. Mostly because before the sex starts they sit down and openly discuss limits, safe words and explore the needs of each other. Something that the rest of us rarely do.

Since this is an 'issue' or a point of question for you I suggest you talk to your partner,let him know how you feel and ask him what he thinks.

As for facials. As long as it doesn't get in the eyes and as long as you haven't just recently shaved (shaving leaves micro scratches that can open the top layer(s) of skin to many infections) then the spread of STD's is minimal

Good post, but GREAT POINT about shaving! I didn't even think of that.