Just wanna write a little...

[Danlees]

It is a normal Sunday here in China, kinda cloudy and chilly today. I usually seldom write blogs or something like that. But last night I read an very interesting and romantic love story, and recently I watched some gay romance movies So I wanna write something about me and the past here, where I can be who I really am, cuz my real- life circle of friends wont read this..

To begin with, I’d like to mention how I discover I am attracted to males. When I was a little kid, I remember I had a very good relationship with other neighborhood kids (mostly are boys). And my closest friends are boys too. At that time, we often played together. One boy, 3yrs older than me, was very considerate. Every time I didn’t wanna play games or what, he would quit too and then talked with me. I felt he was like a big brother, and he was indeed very nice to me. However we did not know what is gay. We just enjoyed playing together and having fun like normal kids. I guess that is the time when I started to realize maybe I fancy males more than females.

I had to say, after high school graduation, I just found out how gay is defined and so many gay people on the internet. It is my first time I feel so warmed and not lonely. Later on, I added some gay groups on QQ (a kind of Chinese MSN, with more useful functions though). I made some good friends there, many of whom told me to be careful when looking for gay friends online. Well I met bad guys there too… you know, some are very flirting and full of sweet,dirty words ,just trying to have sex with u….i am kinda pissed with those people at first.. but now I think it is very normal. Because those people just like to have sex with various guys they are interested in, no matter whether they truly love them or not….

Sometimes I really wish I could be born in a more gay-friendly country. Because in China, I am afraid to love and there r many things to concern…actually, many Chinese gays also like to do one night stands, which I cannot accept…thus I am so careful that I am still a virgin (so embarrassed ). Maybe you will ask how I meet my need when I want. .hahah…well. to be honest, I watch porns when I feel horny ..just masturbating though,, (OMG, I am not sure if it is appropriate to write, anyway that is me ).

I am so delighted that I can have access to Facebook, as you know, China has blocked it… I found good friends there too. They are very nice and helpful .Seeing they update their everyday happiness with friends and partners, I feel so good…cuz they made me believe there is true love out there , and a man worthing waiting for…I often imagine who will be my first and the last Mr. right. Lol.. I don’t know honestly… but I am looking forward to his coming….

This month I will be working in Guangdong Province, a whole new place. It is where my career will start off, and I hope my love will happen there as well..

God bless, and all the best~~!

[Jay]

There's nothing to be ashamed of to be a virgin. Your time will eventually come. There are a lot of virgin gay guys out there. I'm in the V club too.

Good luck and do enjoy your new life as well as work in Guangdong Province, Danlees.

[Danlees]

There's nothing to be ashamed of to be a virgin. Your time will eventually come. There are a lot of virgin gay guys out there. I'm in the V club too.

Good luck and do enjoy your new life as well as work in Guangdong Province, Danlees.

Thanks ,Jay.. it means a lotmile:

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Sometimes I really wish I could be born in a more gay-friendly country. Because in China, I am afraid to love and there r many things to concern…actually, many Chinese gays also like to do one night stands, which I cannot accept…thus I am so careful that I am still a virgin (so embarrassed ).

There really isn't any more 'gay friendly' country.even Canada, the place of a million pleasant people has issues with the gays. Though they have sweeping 'anti-antigay' laws, gay marriage, there is still a lot of animosity of the gay by the people.

I fear that you will find in any nation that gays are notoriously promiscuous.

This is largely due to how males are wired. Straight men would if they could, but women don't do it because how they are labeled as 'slut' if they like sex, thus men have to play this game of 'love' and hold back on their real urges which is to have lots and lots of sex. They still express in in that most marriages/relationships were cheating takes place it is the male who did/does it.


Its generally a penis thing.

Yes there are a few men who, like you, want more than just sex. However we are in a minority. The upside to that is that you run a far less risk of being harmed not only by STD's but by the mental/emotional players who are out there.

As for being a virgin - its a good thing. There is really no need to rush out and get laid because the majority do not appreciate their lost virginity. Most who have issues with virgins actually had a bad 'first time' experience, or they lost their virginity to the 'wrong person'. While they most likely hoped to give it up to a 'good person' or 'The One' it didn't happen that way, so to cover their guilt/shame/regret they lash out at others.

[LateBloomer]

Hah, I was a 35 year old virgin.

They almost made a movie about me.

:biggrin:

Here's one of my favorite poems.

TO THE VIRGINS, TO MAKE MUCH OF TIME.
by Robert Herrick

GATHER ye rosebuds while ye may,
Old time is still a-flying :
And this same flower that smiles to-day
To-morrow will be dying.

The glorious lamp of heaven, the sun,
The higher he's a-getting,
The sooner will his race be run,
And nearer he's to setting.

That age is best which is the first,
When youth and blood are warmer ;
But being spent, the worse, and worst
Times still succeed the former.

Then be not coy, but use your time,
And while ye may go marry :
For having lost but once your prime
You may for ever tarry.

[Zet]

There really isn't any more 'gay friendly' country.even Canada, the place of a million pleasant people has issues with the gays. Though they have sweeping 'anti-antigay' laws, gay marriage, there is still a lot of animosity of the gay by the people.

I fear that you will find in any nation that gays are notoriously promiscuous. .

I couldn't agree more to that. Sweden is a very "Gay friendly" country indeed, they got right to marriage, anti-antigay laws, yada yada... But still there is a lot of resentment. I kept my head very low in my class in high school but yet there was bashing from all fronts, homophobia, racism, fascism, Nazism. We can't change people, humanity loves someone to hate, someone to blame on, someone to bash and trash.

[Danlees]

I couldn't agree more to that. Sweden is a very "Gay friendly" country indeed, they got right to marriage, anti-antigay laws, yada yada... But still there is a lot of resentment. I kept my head very low in my class in high school but yet there was bashing from all fronts, homophobia, racism, fascism, Nazism. We can't change people, humanity loves someone to hate, someone to blame on, someone to bash and trash.

oh...i didnt know this. i am sure "it will get better"

[Danlees]

There really isn't any more 'gay friendly' country.even Canada, the place of a million pleasant people has issues with the gays. Though they have sweeping 'anti-antigay' laws, gay marriage, there is still a lot of animosity of the gay by the people.

I fear that you will find in any nation that gays are notoriously promiscuous.

This is largely due to how males are wired. Straight men would if they could, but women don't do it because how they are labeled as 'slut' if they like sex, thus men have to play this game of 'love' and hold back on their real urges which is to have lots and lots of sex. They still express in in that most marriages/relationships were cheating takes place it is the male who did/does it.


Its generally a penis thing.

Yes there are a few men who, like you, want more than just sex. However we are in a minority. The upside to that is that you run a far less risk of being harmed not only by STD's but by the mental/emotional players who are out there.

As for being a virgin - its a good thing. There is really no need to rush out and get laid because the majority do not appreciate their lost virginity. Most who have issues with virgins actually had a bad 'first time' experience, or they lost their virginity to the 'wrong person'. While they most likely hoped to give it up to a 'good person' or 'The One' it didn't happen that way, so to cover their guilt/shame/regret they lash out at others.

Thank you for letting me know so much information, and removing my worries....
I am sure you are having a very wonderful relationship with your partner. wish you two happiness forever~~mile:

[Rainbowmum]

Sweetie , trust me there is nothing to be ashamed of.
Be proud that you are a virgin.

[Danlees]

Sweetie , trust me there is nothing to be ashamed of.
Be proud that you are a virgin.

yh. i should be proud of who i am...mile: