08-09-2013, 04:35 PM
Hi,
I have a âproblemâ and really no one experienced to ask about it, so as I remembered last night I registered here I thought what the heck, maybe at least someone will get a laugh out of it if nothing else.
I realize that this is extremely silly, laugh all you want, Iâm not touchy, but after youâre done laughing maybe try to offer some input? Pretty please, It really bothers me, itâs one of those nagging things that I canât get out of my head and which distract me from real, legit problems (like how will I be able to live with the fact that boyfriend is paying half of my half of rent XD)
So on to the subject, in October Iâm (hopefully) going to University and since I donât have where to live, weâre kind of seriously considering moving in together with my boyfriend. There are two options, either me moving in with them (him and his parents, Iâd have my own room then, but itâd be way awkward) or the two of us renting a tiny, one room apartment. Either way, weâd be living together, and hereâs where I donât get how sex related things work.
My concern is cleanliness, Iâm somewhat of a clean freak and any kind of possible âdirty accidentsâ during sex are absolutely not an option, Iâd probably die from as much as 1% of possibility, so I need to make sure Iâm very clean and all that. Now that we live separately itâs very easy, we donât get much occasions to be alone (I have a rule, not getting into any kind of funny business if weâre not alone for about two hours, even so we were caught twice already, watching the time stresses me out), so itâs easy to predict such times. If Iâm going to his place and I know his parents are going out, or something of that sort I just proceed with thorough cleaning before leaving and am ready for whatever happens, sometimes nothing happens but Iâm ready if it would. Now I canât figure out what am I supposed to do when weâll live together. It will be virtually impossible to guess beforehand when we might be in the mood, so what? For example weâre sitting on the couch, watching a movie, things start to heat up and Iâm suddenly jumping up âwait a minute, I need to run to the bathroom for an enemaâ.... XD Such a mood killer. What appeals to me most in living together is the spontaneity, we wonât have to plan anymore how and when to wrench a bit of time for each other every day, in between of everyoneâs busy schedules, but the sex thing kind of kills all of my excitement about that. I donât want to kill all that spontaneity, actually planning sexual intercourses beforehand is out of question, Iâd prefer to never have any at all than having to run according to a schedule. So what do I do?
Iâm sure some of you live with their partners, or lived in the past, what do you do? How youâre solving that problem? Or there isnât anyone here for whom it ever was a problem? I know Iâm strange and sometimes worry about things normal people donât even think about. I just canât figure out anything for myself and my boyfriend is not helpful at all, he just laughs and says that it doesnât matter anyway, Iâm creating problems where there are none and I am obsessing... Of course Iâm obsessing! Iâm an obsessive person, I never hid that, he knew it from the start, he knew what heâs getting himself into, decided to go for me anyway and promissed to help with my obsessions, I wonder where is that promise now.
Anyway, if anyone has any kind of thoughts on that, Iâd be very grateful.
Thanks for reading.
I have a âproblemâ and really no one experienced to ask about it, so as I remembered last night I registered here I thought what the heck, maybe at least someone will get a laugh out of it if nothing else.
I realize that this is extremely silly, laugh all you want, Iâm not touchy, but after youâre done laughing maybe try to offer some input? Pretty please, It really bothers me, itâs one of those nagging things that I canât get out of my head and which distract me from real, legit problems (like how will I be able to live with the fact that boyfriend is paying half of my half of rent XD)
So on to the subject, in October Iâm (hopefully) going to University and since I donât have where to live, weâre kind of seriously considering moving in together with my boyfriend. There are two options, either me moving in with them (him and his parents, Iâd have my own room then, but itâd be way awkward) or the two of us renting a tiny, one room apartment. Either way, weâd be living together, and hereâs where I donât get how sex related things work.
My concern is cleanliness, Iâm somewhat of a clean freak and any kind of possible âdirty accidentsâ during sex are absolutely not an option, Iâd probably die from as much as 1% of possibility, so I need to make sure Iâm very clean and all that. Now that we live separately itâs very easy, we donât get much occasions to be alone (I have a rule, not getting into any kind of funny business if weâre not alone for about two hours, even so we were caught twice already, watching the time stresses me out), so itâs easy to predict such times. If Iâm going to his place and I know his parents are going out, or something of that sort I just proceed with thorough cleaning before leaving and am ready for whatever happens, sometimes nothing happens but Iâm ready if it would. Now I canât figure out what am I supposed to do when weâll live together. It will be virtually impossible to guess beforehand when we might be in the mood, so what? For example weâre sitting on the couch, watching a movie, things start to heat up and Iâm suddenly jumping up âwait a minute, I need to run to the bathroom for an enemaâ.... XD Such a mood killer. What appeals to me most in living together is the spontaneity, we wonât have to plan anymore how and when to wrench a bit of time for each other every day, in between of everyoneâs busy schedules, but the sex thing kind of kills all of my excitement about that. I donât want to kill all that spontaneity, actually planning sexual intercourses beforehand is out of question, Iâd prefer to never have any at all than having to run according to a schedule. So what do I do?
Iâm sure some of you live with their partners, or lived in the past, what do you do? How youâre solving that problem? Or there isnât anyone here for whom it ever was a problem? I know Iâm strange and sometimes worry about things normal people donât even think about. I just canât figure out anything for myself and my boyfriend is not helpful at all, he just laughs and says that it doesnât matter anyway, Iâm creating problems where there are none and I am obsessing... Of course Iâm obsessing! Iâm an obsessive person, I never hid that, he knew it from the start, he knew what heâs getting himself into, decided to go for me anyway and promissed to help with my obsessions, I wonder where is that promise now.
Anyway, if anyone has any kind of thoughts on that, Iâd be very grateful.
Thanks for reading.