(Warning raw words) Strong urges. Need advice about Sex / Masturbation

[Anonymous]

Hello.
If you are squemish about picturing words regarding sex and masturbation sorry and please leave this post. I am in need of some advice and my word choise is choosen to give a picturing panorama view of the topic before I ask advices.

I am 26 years old and (unfortunatly) virgin in any kind of sence (I've not even kissed someone once). I just moved into a new flat a month ago and since I knew that I wouldn't have any visitors comming, I shut all the drapes and desided to be nude during the rest of the evening (Which never happens), It felt exotic and new, and after some minutes I put on a porn video and started going off.

A half hour after that I proceeded to go to bed, nude too. It felt nice and liberating, and eventually I started fondling my sphincter. I've never bottomed but there is nothing that turns me on more than the idea of bottoming. I slept for two hours but I woke up 2 am at night feeling incredibly horny to a point that I've never felt, so I went looking around my flat for something to use as a "Dildo".

I'm still in the closet and I've been to afraid of buying a dildo or similar if someone would find out. Thusfar I've managed to controll my "urges" with common masturbation but something flew over me. I grabbed a rounded plastic broom shaft and started using it in such a manner. I could've damaging my inside but the feeling of having it entranced me so I couldn't stop, it just felt so nice; I could've been breaking my leg but in that state I wouldn't care due to extacy. Because I masturbated 2 hour early I thought that I wouldn't finnish off, but after going harder I finished off in 3 minutes.

Afterwards my first thought was "What the hell / what the fuck flew over me" and I felt confused as hell. I've used some light items in such a manner to get off but never as rough and spontanious as this. It was as if a horny demon or something posessed me, and it was one of those moments that I felt like being gay wasn't really a choise... Because who in hell would choose to wake up 2 at night wanting to shove a broom shaft into your arsehole.

My question being is: Is it normal for you / others to get those kinds of explosive sexual urges, where it feels as if there is nothing in this world that might stop it? I've been horny many times but I've never felt this extreme need of sexual satisfaction, and It felt so alien to me. Is this how sex might build up to? Please sheed some light and if my spelling, choise of word or phrasing offended you, I'm sorry.

[InbetweenDreams]

Well my guess being that you're 26 it is hormones and yes shit happens to me too lol

So nothing here you posted would seem out of the ordinary...

[deephiance]

Since the beginning of time men have been shoving things up their arse in an attempt to reach a prostrate orgasm.

I would assume that it is a natural curiosity of most men to masturbate with some sort of object up their arse as a dildo. Certain vegetables spring to mind, but anything long and rounded seems to appeal to those who wish to pleasure themself.

I don't even think it is unnatural for any human being to get 'explosively' horney.

[InbetweenDreams]

The only thing I might add is yeah probably better to get some toys as opposed to using things like broomsticks...and lube, definitely use lube. There's a lot of thread about toys and things you can use that can be a lot of fun.

Otherwise it is perfectly normal to feel the way you do...

[Darius]

When I first became curious about butt sex that involved me being the bottom (I had already topped by then), I tried a bottle that was approximately the size of the average erect cock. It hurt and I hated it. I assumed a real cock would be the same. So, I was quite awhile before I was willing to submit to the real thing. When I did, it hurt, too. There was a difference, however. His dick was not as rigid as something like a bottle or a broom handle. It had give to it and it was warm and I didn't have to fuck myself. Best of all, it was attached to someone I was attracted to. No broom handle can provide any of that.
While I still prefer to top more than bottom, there are just times I need him In my butt.

[drobs]

I think my 1st try, way back when, was a big Mag Light flashlight.


Just be careful...
http://adequateman.deadspin.com/what-did...1790335507

PSA - don't put anything in there that can create a vacuum and get stuck.

Now that you have your own flat, you ought to invite someone over. Most men your age either have roommates or still live in their parents house.

[TwisttheLeaf]

The urges are normal, but dude? Get some toys and a lock box, yeah? If you're worried about someone finding them in your drawer, that's the resolution. And always keep your toys clean, no matter what they are.

[Tom358]

I feel exactly the same as you, I'm 28, a virgin, versatile (idea of bottoming gets me switched on just as much as the idea of topping). Only difference is I still live with my parents

It seems that the older I get the more horny I get and at the moment it's getting to be 'standard practice' for me to masturbate twice a night, often one very shortly after another.

I've also used objects lying around the house to stimulate myself, I think the idea of a pad-locked toolbox under the bed full of toys and lube are pretty exciting! The thought of it actually has my mouth watering haha.

I've recently joined a few meetup groups, but wondering how to convert my urges into a reality...

[InbetweenDreams]

I feel exactly the same as you, I'm 28, a virgin, versatile (idea of bottoming gets me switched on just as much as the idea of topping). Only difference is I still live with my parents

It seems that the older I get the more horny I get and at the moment it's getting to be 'standard practice' for me to masturbate twice a night, often one very shortly after another.

I've also used objects lying around the house to stimulate myself, I think the idea of a pad-locked toolbox under the bed full of toys and lube are pretty exciting! The thought of it actually has my mouth watering haha.

I've recently joined a few meetup groups, but wondering how to convert my urges into a reality...

Go get yourself a toolbox and put all your "tools" in it...I mean seriously...a toolbox from Wal-Mart is about $20 at most...a padlock maybe $6... In my case, I don't have to worry about people going through my sock drawer lol

[Tom358]

Go get yourself a toolbox and put all your "tools" in it...I mean seriously...a toolbox from Wal-Mart is about $20 at most...a padlock maybe $6... In my case, I don't have to worry about people going through my sock drawer lol

Haha! I know, I know. Just not sure how to get the toys. Could go into a shop, but would be really nervous or could go and buy something online with the threat of one of the folks accidentally opening it and finding a dildo and some cock rings.