09-14-2013, 08:53 PM
Iâm 21 years old guy and Iâve a twin brother, weâre identical twins. Some time ago he found out Iâm gay, he accidentally caught me kissing with my first boyfriend. I think it was a big surprise for him, because somehow Iâve never told him about my attraction to men, as I was single and it didnât seem important for me. Maybe I should have, then this situation maybe wouldnât be so complicated now.
Since that heâs being really cold towards me. Our relationships were very sincere before it. We told each other everything and it was like weâre two halves of a whole. He was the closest person to me. Now I would like so much to tell him how much I love my boyfriend and how we met and what is he like, but somehow my brother suddenly is not the same brother I had before. He has become very quiet and doesnât want to spend time with me anymore. We used to go out together and attend various activities and now he makes excuses all the time like studying, working and things like that. He doesnât even really want to speak to me. When I ask something, he answers, but when I start to tell him something about my new relationships, heâs just nodding without saying a word. When I asked if he wants to talk with me about what he saw, he said no.
When I asked him what his view on homosexuality is, he was like âI donât think itâs something you should be proud ofâ. When I start to tell him something about it, he always interrupts me and says that I donât have to explain. He says that Iâm still his brother, Iâve always been and always will be and that he accepts me the way I am. But I feel that heâs just saying that, heâs my twin, I can sense that heâs not okay. Why canât he just say âyes, your being gay is disgusting to meâ or something like that? Because Iâm sure this is what he actually thinks. It would hurt me, but it would be so much better than all this simulation when he says heâs okay when I clearly see that heâs not. My boyfriend says that maybe my brother just needs some time to completely understand that his twin is gay, but I think itâs not the case. Iâm just worried he could have this attitude for all the time.
What should I do? I want my old brother back, the one that I could talk to, trust and rely on.
Since that heâs being really cold towards me. Our relationships were very sincere before it. We told each other everything and it was like weâre two halves of a whole. He was the closest person to me. Now I would like so much to tell him how much I love my boyfriend and how we met and what is he like, but somehow my brother suddenly is not the same brother I had before. He has become very quiet and doesnât want to spend time with me anymore. We used to go out together and attend various activities and now he makes excuses all the time like studying, working and things like that. He doesnât even really want to speak to me. When I ask something, he answers, but when I start to tell him something about my new relationships, heâs just nodding without saying a word. When I asked if he wants to talk with me about what he saw, he said no.
When I asked him what his view on homosexuality is, he was like âI donât think itâs something you should be proud ofâ. When I start to tell him something about it, he always interrupts me and says that I donât have to explain. He says that Iâm still his brother, Iâve always been and always will be and that he accepts me the way I am. But I feel that heâs just saying that, heâs my twin, I can sense that heâs not okay. Why canât he just say âyes, your being gay is disgusting to meâ or something like that? Because Iâm sure this is what he actually thinks. It would hurt me, but it would be so much better than all this simulation when he says heâs okay when I clearly see that heâs not. My boyfriend says that maybe my brother just needs some time to completely understand that his twin is gay, but I think itâs not the case. Iâm just worried he could have this attitude for all the time.
What should I do? I want my old brother back, the one that I could talk to, trust and rely on.
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