Am I No Good?

[pocket_pilgrim]

i've only been in a gay bar ONCE in my life, a few weeks ago. it was a really small bar, and when i walked in everyone started to stare. not because i am gorgeous (i'm the cute, tender, nice, guy-next door type - NOT what gay guys are looking for in those bars), but because i was one of the youngest people in there. i got all kinds of glances and, even if nobody walked up to me, i felt like i was being hunted. a piece of meat! ok so i'm not into the gay bar scene, and that felt really strange, the way guys care so much about "freshness" and looks... i'll tell you, my favourite dating place would be a gay library. that would be so cool, a library/cafe where people can meet, have a nice drink, conversation etc., where what matters are common interests and personality, not quick fucks!

confidentially, you're not ugly at all. in fact i'd say you're very manly. quite roughly carved features, but i personally like that in a man. i like the idea of tough exterior / melting inside when it comes to me :biggrin: helps in bed too, when discussing versatility

so relax, you look fine. keeping along the idea that you're not is not going to help you, or the people here. accept that you've just met shallow people who are looking for stereotypes. get over it. mile: