Can't finish....And I dont know why

[Kyle]

I'm 20 and recently just started fooling around. Previously I was a virgin to both sexes until about 3 days ago. About 3 weeks ago I started hanging out with a very cute guy He was my first kiss, my first blow job (giving and receiving), and 3 nights ago He bottomed for me and topped for me.

When we kiss I get into. I mean I get hard and enjoy it, when I give him a blow job I'm into...But when he gives me a blow job it feels good but I can't finish. I think he is starting to feel bad because I don't get off.

I'm not sure if its nerves or because it takes me a long time to finish myself when I"m alone. Does anyone else have or ever had this problem?

I haven't but my last boyfriend had exactly the same problem. I was his first guy and first blow job (receiving and giving) and he found himself in the same situation as you are. He was into it and he enjoyed giving it to me but receiving not that much. He couldn't get off for first two tries. He would masturbate later but he wasn't hard so he used to say "next time." I guess it was third time when I really tried to excite him, kissed his neck and ears and he eventually got off.
I think this whole situation happened to him because he was stressed, he was trying too hard to get off. Nob being able to get off for first time or being nervous is very normal if you ask me because when you are doing it, in the beginning when you are inexperienced you can't concentrate and enjoy fully, you always have side thoughts, how to stand, where to put your hands, you don't have to be like a statue so you think how to move etc and that distracts you.

You may also be placing too much pressure on yourself to 'get off' quickly. The longer it takes the more anxious you get, the less likely you are to get off.

I very much agree with this what Bowyn Aerrow has said. First I asked my boyfriend that I really wanted him too to get off but he couldn't and was anxious, I understood that wasn't a right way so next time I just tried to help him more and that worked.

I'm a moderator on a social network dedicated to intactivism and foreskin restoration and I've lost count of the number of guys who register and remark that they cannot get off when their partner orally or manually stimulates them.

That's interesting. I'm uncut and I can get off by oral stimulation. I always end up having anal sex too but if I let my partner give me a blow job and take me to orgasm, oral sex is much more pleasure for me.