can you be gay without anal ?

[jbrowder24]

Haven't been on in a while, just have been busy with work and holidays and things... I see that there's a lot of debate here, and I have to lean towards those who say it's not needed and that it's about love. Personally in my experience... and perhaps this could change with other experiences... I prefer oral myself.

The initial question though seems to be someone who has a friend who perhaps is confused about what being gay means. So yes there can also be the psychological aspects to it. That said, if they chose not to do it because they don't like it, then there's nothing wrong with that. If it is because they are just coming out, perhaps they will change their mind later, and perhaps they won't. But they should never feel pressured to do anything because it is perceived as the "normal" way to be; it's important people get a chance to explore and decide on their own without pressure.

Whatever they decide sexually, as said above, it's about love and I'll throw in attraction as a lot of people do things with people that they don't necessarily love And it's because of my attraction to guys that I both know that guys are the ones I'd want to do anything sexual with, and the ones that I would want to love with my heart