09-18-2012, 02:52 PM
You a single woman, divorced? Even if you were straight it would be kind of expected that a "recently" divorced woman would go out on 'dates' with other women, how else is a woman to defend herself from the beasts that are called men?
How is this a lie of omission? If you are seeing someone then you want to be their friend. IF you are going to have a relationship it helps to be on friendly terms - ergo still a friend.
If you were a guy, yes it would ring warning bells and sound off alarms. But being a woman in a 'man's world' women are nearly expected to go around in packs. Women who go out singly tend to be called 'sluts' and everybody knows that if a woman is a slut its a very bad thing.
It is obvious to anyone that after a 'recent' divorce and with the problems you are having with the ex that you will naturally be gun-shy and want to have nothing to do with the 'dating men' scene.
But you are still a young person who needs to do more than be at home or working all the time thus need a 'safe' way to blow off steam. What is more logical than a woman going out with her gal-friends for a little safe fun?
Sure the first three dates you will want to do alone (leave the kids at the folks) but you will want to include the kids later on. You are a parent (first and foremost) and your life choices are going to reflect that, thus any potential partner is going to have to accept not just you but the little people who follow you around.
Don't under estimate the smarts of kids. Children are not blinded to the realities of situations, they have yet to put on blinders and come up with ways to explain away what they see.
They will know that mommy and her friend are a bit more than mere friends. And they are not going to try to explain it away, they will see it and accept it at face value.
Its not until kids get older that they start wearing the blinders and having programed opinions.
Quote:More like "Hey, I want to go out with a friend," but that feels like a lie of omission.
How is this a lie of omission? If you are seeing someone then you want to be their friend. IF you are going to have a relationship it helps to be on friendly terms - ergo still a friend.
Quote:Even if I didn't have a problem with that, you know that people get suspicious if you're going out with the same "friend" all the time.
If you were a guy, yes it would ring warning bells and sound off alarms. But being a woman in a 'man's world' women are nearly expected to go around in packs. Women who go out singly tend to be called 'sluts' and everybody knows that if a woman is a slut its a very bad thing.
It is obvious to anyone that after a 'recent' divorce and with the problems you are having with the ex that you will naturally be gun-shy and want to have nothing to do with the 'dating men' scene.
But you are still a young person who needs to do more than be at home or working all the time thus need a 'safe' way to blow off steam. What is more logical than a woman going out with her gal-friends for a little safe fun?
Sure the first three dates you will want to do alone (leave the kids at the folks) but you will want to include the kids later on. You are a parent (first and foremost) and your life choices are going to reflect that, thus any potential partner is going to have to accept not just you but the little people who follow you around.
Don't under estimate the smarts of kids. Children are not blinded to the realities of situations, they have yet to put on blinders and come up with ways to explain away what they see.
They will know that mommy and her friend are a bit more than mere friends. And they are not going to try to explain it away, they will see it and accept it at face value.
Its not until kids get older that they start wearing the blinders and having programed opinions.
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