Needing advise...might lose my fiancee if I don't figure this out

[kindy64]

Basically she said she is miserable and depressed and it's my fault. She said I am not sexualenough. She's upset because I never do anything different in the bedroom and I am not affectionate enough in general. I kiss her all the time I lay all over her constantly. Always tell her how much I love her. I feel stupid in the bedroom, all I feel confident in doing is using my hands, I have gone down on her a few times but i feel like i dont know what i am doing. But I guess I am doing something wrong. How can I be more sexual not just during sex? I don't know if anyone out there has any advice for me I would appreciate it. I don't want to lose her I want to marry this woman.

Well, if she's clinically depressed it isn't your fault, and she shouldn't lay that blame on your shoulders.

Make sure you two are on the same page with definitions and expectations.

"Not sexual enough" "Not affectionate enough"

You need to ask her what she means by that. And how you can meet her needs.