You can call this topic whatever you want..

[Gemini]

Beyond all the BS you guys are slinging at each other, I have three questions:

Do you love him?
Does he love you?
Do you want to stay together?

If the answers are Yes, then it's time to call a halt to the hostilities and start to COMMUNICATE for real. I really believe that you two need to sit down with someone, a counselor or therapist.

There's right and wrong on both sides. But what I hear, above all, is pain. I think you're both in pain. If you can't stop hurting each other, eventually you'll split up. Do either or both of you want that? For real?

There's this TV psychologist who's mostly hype, but he always asks one question that I think is pertinent here - Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?

Your post made me feel sad. You should be building each other up, not tearing each other apart. I get that you felt uncomfortable going to that hotel because he had compared you so unfavorably with the ex he took there. I get that he's stunned and hurt by what he thinks is your online "cheating". It goes on and on, like a contest to see who can hurt who the most.

Stop. Re-evaluate. COMMUNICATE.