You can call this topic whatever you want..

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I actually asked him twice that we need professional help to maybe save our relationship. He then tells me "I don't need help, you need help!" -_-

The thing with relationships and anger and resentments..they can add up and kinda confuse you and make you crazy so I find it helpful to focus on the one deal breaker...and block everything else out..the one thing that is the most important....

...and this statement above would do it for me. OF COURSE you both need to go...as you said..it is "our" relationship....his response would bother me...alot...

As for the hotel thing..I totally get it....but maybe if you went..you could replace his old memories with new ones of both of you? Always remember...there are alot of ways to look at any situation...and the point IMO is to give you mental freedom...