12-12-2016, 09:39 PM
It's never been easy to find "true love".
Think about how easy it would be to find somebody to have a pleasant but brief 30-second conversation with. Not very hard at all.
Now think about how easy it would be to find somebody to have a pleasant meal with. A bit harder, but you probably could do it without that much effort.
Now consider how easy it would be to find somebody you could have an enjoyable sexual encounter with. (No strings attached.) That one would be somewhat tougher, but still do-able.
Now consider how easy it would be to find somebody you could spend a long weekend with. Not just share the room with, but be with pretty much the full three or four days. Now it's getting pretty tough.
...now consider how easy it would be to find somebody you could spend several years with. And you're realizing how difficult this can be.
I'm not saying this to make you (or anybody else) feel depressed or think it's impossible. But so many people seem to think it should be like ordering a sweater online. "Here's my size, here's what I want, send it." But it's nothing like that. You're not just the buyer - you're the seller AND the product, too. And there's often no way of telling from the outset how things will work with any given person. You have to meet them, and interact with them, and see what happens. And a lot of the time, nothing much happens. Or one guy feels something but the other guy doesn't. Sucks, but there it is. All you can do is keep an open mind, and keep meeting people.
Also, the whole thing about "true love" being difficult to come by is exactly why it's so rewarding when it shows up. If it was like, oh, internet access, we'd just take it for granted and be pining over something more difficult to come by.
Lex
Think about how easy it would be to find somebody to have a pleasant but brief 30-second conversation with. Not very hard at all.
Now think about how easy it would be to find somebody to have a pleasant meal with. A bit harder, but you probably could do it without that much effort.
Now consider how easy it would be to find somebody you could have an enjoyable sexual encounter with. (No strings attached.) That one would be somewhat tougher, but still do-able.
Now consider how easy it would be to find somebody you could spend a long weekend with. Not just share the room with, but be with pretty much the full three or four days. Now it's getting pretty tough.
...now consider how easy it would be to find somebody you could spend several years with. And you're realizing how difficult this can be.
I'm not saying this to make you (or anybody else) feel depressed or think it's impossible. But so many people seem to think it should be like ordering a sweater online. "Here's my size, here's what I want, send it." But it's nothing like that. You're not just the buyer - you're the seller AND the product, too. And there's often no way of telling from the outset how things will work with any given person. You have to meet them, and interact with them, and see what happens. And a lot of the time, nothing much happens. Or one guy feels something but the other guy doesn't. Sucks, but there it is. All you can do is keep an open mind, and keep meeting people.
Also, the whole thing about "true love" being difficult to come by is exactly why it's so rewarding when it shows up. If it was like, oh, internet access, we'd just take it for granted and be pining over something more difficult to come by.
Lex
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