If you love, you'll forgive anything?

[Davis]

Is that true? If you really love someone, will you forgive this person for anything? Or are there some things that are unforgivable despite all the love?

[East]

Yeah...if the love in unconditional...which is not all that common...

Most love is conditional...as is most forgiveness...

There really IS a thin lone between love and hate....

[Bhp91126]

Maybe anything once, but not anything over and over again. And at some point you have to realize that the other person doesn't love you and remove yourself from the relationship. Someone who often inflicts pain on you, doesn't love you.

[MikeW]

No, it isn't true.

It's something said by highly manipulative people to enslave us.

Don't believe a word of it.

[Lexington]

I had a friend treat me really poorly once. And I forgave him completely.

...I didn't stay friends with him, though. I'm not a fool.

Lex

[Camfer]

I'm with Lex here. Just because you forgive a person and continue to love that person is no indication you can continue to be around that person.

[Virge]

I'm going through some hard times about this right now. I'm not sure what I believe anymore. Once betrayal washed out trust it's been beyond my ability to visualize ever trusting again. I just don't see it happening but I'm trying to believe it might.

No, it isn't true.

It's something said by highly manipulative people to enslave us.

Don't believe a word of it.

^ Right now these are the most honest words I've heard about it. I'm still hoping they are wrong but I'm not going to be stupid and try to fool myself about it.

Forgiveness = giving a murderer permission to stab you after his knife is already in your heart.

[Iceblink]

Although many think of forgiveness as something where you make up with the person, hug and kiss and then life goes on the way it was before, that is not really what it is. Forgiveness is about you, not the other person. It means you have gotten to a point where the hurt and animosity for the person is behind you and no longer has that much impact on you. It means if you think of the person, someone brings up the name, or you run into the person somewhere, feelings of anger or sadness do not coming rushing back. Sometimes the relationship might go back to pretty much the way it was once you've reached forgiveness, but it doesn't always. It doesn't even have to mean that there will still be a relationship.

And no, no matter how much you love a person, it doesn't mean you will always forgive them for anything. There can be things done that are so horrible, it is expecting a lot of a person for them to forgive, put it behind them and move on.

[Watermark]

I can forgive but I'll never forget.

[Darius]

It sounds to me like the question is less about forgiveness and more about where you draw the line with someone who continually wrongs you. Some people, some relationships are toxic and requiring you to remove yourself from them/it, but you can still choose to forgive them, recognizing that unforgiveness will only hurt you, ultimately, and not him.