08-19-2012, 02:27 PM
Well Lloyd, the first thing you have to understand here is he is not in a relationship.
Taken one at a time I could make a case a reasonable case for each behavior and still contain him in a relationship. All together, along with his extra activities makes it clear that he does not love you as a partner other than a mere sex partner.
Is it commitment issues? I say yes. Why? because his fear that you will use 'stuff' against him. This is a sign of deep seated insecurity. Someone, somewhere, sometime betrayed his trust, thus he is now unable to commit trust into a person.
1. You need to end this unhealthy 'partnership' You view it as a relationship and have viewed it as such when the indicators are/have been clear that it is not.
2. You need to sit down a spell and really consider what factors attracted you to him in the first place. What behaviors and character traits impressed you and lead you to his bedchamber.
I say take at least 6 months to really think long and hard what those traits and personality quirks were that you found attractive. If you fail to identify them then you will end up with him again. Well not him exactly, but another guy like him that will follow in similar footsteps.
You also need to figure out how he was able to hoodwink you into even believing you have a relationship when there is no real indicator of equal love here and from what you wrote never was.
Lastly, get yourself tested for the STDS - all of them. There is one you know of, what about the others he could have contracted and passed on without even knowing he was infected?
Taken one at a time I could make a case a reasonable case for each behavior and still contain him in a relationship. All together, along with his extra activities makes it clear that he does not love you as a partner other than a mere sex partner.
Is it commitment issues? I say yes. Why? because his fear that you will use 'stuff' against him. This is a sign of deep seated insecurity. Someone, somewhere, sometime betrayed his trust, thus he is now unable to commit trust into a person.
1. You need to end this unhealthy 'partnership' You view it as a relationship and have viewed it as such when the indicators are/have been clear that it is not.
2. You need to sit down a spell and really consider what factors attracted you to him in the first place. What behaviors and character traits impressed you and lead you to his bedchamber.
I say take at least 6 months to really think long and hard what those traits and personality quirks were that you found attractive. If you fail to identify them then you will end up with him again. Well not him exactly, but another guy like him that will follow in similar footsteps.
You also need to figure out how he was able to hoodwink you into even believing you have a relationship when there is no real indicator of equal love here and from what you wrote never was.
Lastly, get yourself tested for the STDS - all of them. There is one you know of, what about the others he could have contracted and passed on without even knowing he was infected?
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