09-02-2012, 12:40 PM
Hello CuriousFellow and 
to GaySpeak. It seems to me that you have it pretty well defined for yourself already. You seem to have figured it out. What most of us here say is that there's no need to label and just to go with the flow.
Having male to male fantasies is quite common in straight men (or so I read some time back) and as long as they don't get implemented in the real world that's what they are: fantasies. Nothing wrong with fantasies. Nothing wrong with experimenting with sexuality either, as long as you remember to keep it safe® for you and your partner(s). Maybe you are just one of those men who doesn't identify with "gay" nor with being able to get romantic with another guy, which is basically what "gay" is about. It's not entirely about the kind of sex you have and who you have it with, although that consideration will also come into play. For the moment let's just call it non anal MSM. (Men who have sex with men).
Not all males or gay men even are into anal sex. It's very much a question of taste. The fact that you enjoy putting things up that end does however indicate that you might be candidate for a try... but then that's a very personal issue of intimacy...
It is possible that you are still coming to terms with the whole intimacy, male on male sex thing and that for the moment you are not finding any necessity to bond with other males that way.
The fact that you have come on here to discuss it is a first step to understanding your needs and to addressing whatever it is that you are finding hard to address for the moment.
I think we've all been pretty much brainwashed by society to become "straight" and the idea that we could even be gay is one of the hardest things to overcome sometimes.
I'm not saying you have to come out. As long as you're comfortable with yourself and how you function sexually, that's fine.
Enjoy your life, enjoy your sex life, be honest with your desires (as often as you can) and enjoy the ladies!
Take care. PA
PS. You're not bizarre. You're human. We come in all kinds and colours and all shades of sexual orientations. Our fantasies are a product of whatever we've grasped of what's desirable, in our eyes.
to GaySpeak. It seems to me that you have it pretty well defined for yourself already. You seem to have figured it out. What most of us here say is that there's no need to label and just to go with the flow. Having male to male fantasies is quite common in straight men (or so I read some time back) and as long as they don't get implemented in the real world that's what they are: fantasies. Nothing wrong with fantasies. Nothing wrong with experimenting with sexuality either, as long as you remember to keep it safe® for you and your partner(s). Maybe you are just one of those men who doesn't identify with "gay" nor with being able to get romantic with another guy, which is basically what "gay" is about. It's not entirely about the kind of sex you have and who you have it with, although that consideration will also come into play. For the moment let's just call it non anal MSM. (Men who have sex with men).
Not all males or gay men even are into anal sex. It's very much a question of taste. The fact that you enjoy putting things up that end does however indicate that you might be candidate for a try... but then that's a very personal issue of intimacy...
It is possible that you are still coming to terms with the whole intimacy, male on male sex thing and that for the moment you are not finding any necessity to bond with other males that way.
The fact that you have come on here to discuss it is a first step to understanding your needs and to addressing whatever it is that you are finding hard to address for the moment.
I think we've all been pretty much brainwashed by society to become "straight" and the idea that we could even be gay is one of the hardest things to overcome sometimes.
I'm not saying you have to come out. As long as you're comfortable with yourself and how you function sexually, that's fine.
Enjoy your life, enjoy your sex life, be honest with your desires (as often as you can) and enjoy the ladies!
Take care. PA
PS. You're not bizarre. You're human. We come in all kinds and colours and all shades of sexual orientations. Our fantasies are a product of whatever we've grasped of what's desirable, in our eyes.
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