09-04-2012, 04:13 PM
Well, i'm not a therapist and i didn't stay at a Holiday Inn Express last night, but from what you posted, i'm going out on a limb here, but i think you have some unresolved issues with your Father.
The fact that your primary sexual attraction is to older men tells me that either:
a) You didn't have a close relationship with your father (or other adult male in your life), or
b) There was some sexual exposure in your younger years between you and another adult male.
Does any of this make sense?
No matter how you answer, please know you're not weird or twisted - as long as there was no sexual abuse as a child, you're "compartmentalizing" your sexuality: ie: your clear and strict guidelines on what turns you on with a man (turns you off with a man) and your attempt to validate your "hetero" side by talkign about how you are turned on by women, can become romantic with women, pussy, etc.
Yes, i said validate because while all that may be true - its only true NOW! It's an easy, clean and convenient way to retain your "hetero" self while still having sexual desires for men.
All that said, you can do this "dance" for years, until you meet an older guy you "click with" and then things may change. Just saying.
The fact that your primary sexual attraction is to older men tells me that either:
a) You didn't have a close relationship with your father (or other adult male in your life), or
b) There was some sexual exposure in your younger years between you and another adult male.
Does any of this make sense?
No matter how you answer, please know you're not weird or twisted - as long as there was no sexual abuse as a child, you're "compartmentalizing" your sexuality: ie: your clear and strict guidelines on what turns you on with a man (turns you off with a man) and your attempt to validate your "hetero" side by talkign about how you are turned on by women, can become romantic with women, pussy, etc.
Yes, i said validate because while all that may be true - its only true NOW! It's an easy, clean and convenient way to retain your "hetero" self while still having sexual desires for men.
All that said, you can do this "dance" for years, until you meet an older guy you "click with" and then things may change. Just saying.
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