Personal Advice

[archubbycub]

Not a good thing to say to 'take the pressure off' I'm afraid.

The inability to have successful and comfortable anal sex usually comes down to performance anxiety. The spincter muscle is one of the toughest muscles in the body and it needs to be relaxed to 'let it in' and if their is anxiety and fear, then that lil muscle is never going to relax enough.

Of course, some people are just not built for anal penetration and that is something you both have to consider and accept and find alternatives.

So other than the techniques already mentioned, what else would you recommend to alleviate the performance anxiety? Don't get me wrong, everything else we've done together as far as sex goes has been terrific, but this is something we both want to share with each other and I'll be damned if I give up without a fight!:biggrin: