Personal Advice

[archubbycub]

My guy and me definetly went through the same thing! We've both filled both roles, but he tends to be more of the passive and me the active. Most of the time we start with spooning for a little while, or just fooling around (ya know, the horseplay stuff). Then he gets frustrated and anxious to go further lol.

We usually do most of the whole process while spooning as it is a little easier for both of us to control the speed and pressure without having to balance in positions neither of us can do while clothed let alone naked, greasy, and firmer in certain areas :p

The most important part is just to remember that the sex itself shouldn't be the only important part; that being together in the most intimate way is worth more than anything! When you think of it that way it may help you to relax enough to continue past cuddling.

You are so right about that last part! He and I were walking through the store the other day, picking up a few last minute things for his dorm room (yes he's in college still :p ) and I commented on how much it felt like we were shopping for our home instead. And it felt so good just walking beside him and knowing how much we care for one another.