May I rant on your shoulder please?

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Well, i know how you feel! My prior 10-year LTR ended after i finally discovered that my "husband" was dating a mutual "friend" of ours for years and the last 3 years was nothing but a ruse while they planned their "new life" together.

Hmm there is a lot in your post to digest and I have read it and reread it once already and most likely will reread it again.

Exit strategy: Hmm that is a hard one. I've been making a mental checklist of stuff 'His, Mine, Ours' I never realized how in 14 years Ours has gathered a lot of crap!:o Refrigerator, stove, TV, lots of other stuff... .

On the bright side I do have a chainsaw, I guess I can cut the refrigerator, stove and HDTV in half.... Note to self, buy new chains.

Technically this place is 'mine' in that I'm caretaker of the property for the owner of the property. I was here before my 'partner'. It is kinda sorta my job - I never really considered it as resume material since I live here, but I could make a strong legal case in my favor...

Financially its 'complex'. Until November of last year he was unemployed. Part of a huge lay-off at DHL. For two years (99 weeks?) he was 'looking for work' - well if playing farmville and Wizards 101 is considered looking for work.

During that time I was the only one with a job (two if you consider the caretaker thing). And my business started slowly declining as less and less jobs could be lined up.

The start of this year I just plumb gave up on the small business thing and am now in the process of getting on SSI/SSD. What with the truck throwing a rod earlier this year and the small fact that construction/small contracting jobs have all but completely vanished there is no profit in it.

Prior to the economic crash we were doing fairly well, both working, both setting aside money (retirement funds), both paying bills 'equally'.

What do I want? Hmm. Good question. I really am not certain at this time what it is I want. Perhaps when the Tsunami Hits I will have a better idea?