May I rant on your shoulder please?

[Bowyn Aerrow]

David, who's been keeping who in clover over the past 14 years? I know things are difficult economically and that his search for a job is not very fruitful, but how long is he going to be sponging on you?
Apart from that one bout of doing the laundry recently, what part of your couple life does he perform in??? It sounds like you don't need him any more, but maybe he needs you. The question is: can you go on like this, or do you need a change of scenery?

I don't think there is 'sponging' going on. For the first 11 years we were pretty much partners in the economics department. Yes the past three years (roughly) has been touch and go.

But he lost his long term job at DHL - he had invested 10 years and got laid off when DHL laid off 50 thousand of its US work force. Then two yeas of trying to find a job in California during the economic recession... While yes he may not have applied himself 100% toward the job search, the reality is that jobs were (and still are) tight around these parts.

He did get a temp Christmas job at Target and that has moved on to 'permanent' - No not full time, but then even the managers at target are not full time, thus Target doesn't have to have health insurance coverage and stuff.

The same economic forced that lead to DHL and other large corporations laying off millions of people lead to my business 'slump'. During that two years he was employes it got harder and harder to find new clients and to keep the ones I already had.

Right now yes I'm 'financially' leaning on him. But that will change when the SSI/SSD starts coming in (The Lawyer Lady said it takes 20-26 months to go through that process. :o)

There is good reason to believe that 'sponging' isn't going on.

Well there may be some, but that may be emotional 'sponging' not financial.