May I rant on your shoulder please?

[BobInTampa]

Boywn:

Just out of pure curiousity, can you share with us HOW he explained his actions? I know it might hurt re-hashing those discussions, but as i continue to read your replies to the posts here, i'm struck with what sounds like a very cavalier attitude on his part...like, "no i'm not cheating, well, ok, you caught me, yea, i did mess around a bit, well, actually, for the last 14 years i have been meeting a guy (or guys) for no-strings-attached sex when i have been out of town....but, i promise i won't do it again...yada, yada, yada."

I mean, did he give ANY expliaination? Was he fucking these guys before you 2 started dating and living together or was he just using the internet to "chat" and cruise and then just conspire to lie to you about where he was going so he could get his rocks off?

Oh, and was it the SAME guy over and over again for 14 years (the guy in san fran) or was it multiple guys.....i think the answer will shed some additional light on why you're feeling the way you do and also how his mind worked in attempting to justify what he was doing.