May I rant on your shoulder please?

[princealbertofb]

Wow, that's our man resurfacing... I like the strong will that goes with it. Implement what you can, David... Keep the cooking and the garden to yourself, as that's how you'll get the most satisfaction from it. Maybe you should ask for a lump sum of money each week or month to cover food costs.. At the same time you probably want to know that he's eating well and not bingeing on crap (and not bringing back home those cartons of pizza that will be strewn around the place, even if there is a rule of pick-up-your-own-crap).

Can he be trusted with doing the laundry and putting it out to dry? Can he be trusted with putting out the trash? Think of the odd jobs around the house that he can be trusted to do fairly honourably and give him those. Anything that can empower him to some extent may be key to him finding back his self-esteem and may be a way to healing (still hopeful me! ). No, I don't want his demise, and I want you to be as comfortable as you deserve.

As for mum in law, no need to worry her or treat her any differently. He's a grown up now, he can be responsible for his own deeds.

By the way, your garden is your own healing factor. Keep it as it is: yours!