May I rant on your shoulder please?

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I agree that it should be a big blazing sign telling them to change their behavior. I can understand the flip side to a degree, but only if they were to tell their negative partner that they felt more comfortable with only positive partners and, things were settled with the negative partner BEFORE they went and found a positive one.

I know that if I were in your place, I'd feel like he burned me twice over, first by obviously not being monogamous and getting HIV in the first place, then by not making any effort to change his ways even though you stood by him even after he tested positive.