09-17-2012, 12:58 AM
Like Bowyn said, high school for me was a different century, or as good as and, gay was not an option. Yes, I knew I was, 100% by 15, but I still wasn't convinced that I was SUPPOSED to be gay. At that point my mind was still stuck in "He [my father] did that [sexual abuse] to make you this way so he had an excuse to belt you more often."
I would never have even considered looking at a guy below the wast, clothed or not. Nor did I dare look at girls as anything remotely sexual - even if I had fantasized about them, that was a sin as much as fantasizing about guys was and, I was dead set on not being gay, on being saved.
I know a bit of an odd concept that even masturbation and fantasy was sin, the same as if I had actually had sex with whoever I fantasized about. But then I was raised that thinking of sinning was the same as actually sinning. Glad I wasn't Catholic, my pries would never have heard the end of the confessions from me with that mind fuck going on.
I don't date bi or in the closet, trying to maybe come out or any of that but, if I respect them enough to at least figure they are worth the air they breathe, I'll try to be there as a part of their support network, as much as they will allow on a strictly platonic level. (natural aptitude and in born desire to heal there. I want to help fix anyone I can.)
So were it me, I'd be a friend, not flirt back but, listen and give feedback if he chose to bring the subject up with me, and I would make sure he knew I was okay with difficult subjects, wasn't going to judge him or get upset, just be honest with what I thought of it and, relate a few of my own experiences, if they were relevant to anything he touched on.
As with any personal situation, ultimately only you can decide what is right for you.
I would never have even considered looking at a guy below the wast, clothed or not. Nor did I dare look at girls as anything remotely sexual - even if I had fantasized about them, that was a sin as much as fantasizing about guys was and, I was dead set on not being gay, on being saved.
I know a bit of an odd concept that even masturbation and fantasy was sin, the same as if I had actually had sex with whoever I fantasized about. But then I was raised that thinking of sinning was the same as actually sinning. Glad I wasn't Catholic, my pries would never have heard the end of the confessions from me with that mind fuck going on.
I don't date bi or in the closet, trying to maybe come out or any of that but, if I respect them enough to at least figure they are worth the air they breathe, I'll try to be there as a part of their support network, as much as they will allow on a strictly platonic level. (natural aptitude and in born desire to heal there. I want to help fix anyone I can.)
So were it me, I'd be a friend, not flirt back but, listen and give feedback if he chose to bring the subject up with me, and I would make sure he knew I was okay with difficult subjects, wasn't going to judge him or get upset, just be honest with what I thought of it and, relate a few of my own experiences, if they were relevant to anything he touched on.
As with any personal situation, ultimately only you can decide what is right for you.
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