09-25-2012, 01:51 AM
When I get into situations like this, my "I'm sorry" almost always means "Wow, I'm really sorry you are hurting, and I hope you feel better soon."
If I don't like them... well, I am still honestly sorry they're going through it, and that's what I mean when I say "I'm sorry." I guess I never thought that it's supposed to mean "Hey, that really sucks. I wish _____ was still here, and I'm sorry s/he isn't."
Just my rambling thought and may or may not really reflect what you're trying to say.
As far as being phony... I can't do that. I don't know *how* unless I'm deliberately acting in an acting setting. I won't do it. I just find a way to double-meaning something (like "I'm sorry for your loss") then politely take my leave.
Of course, I get to blame it on my Asperger's if I really stick my foot in it. ;-) (j/k - I don't blame it on me being an Aspie, but down the road if someone is pissed at me and I can't fix it, I might bring it up...)
If I don't like them... well, I am still honestly sorry they're going through it, and that's what I mean when I say "I'm sorry." I guess I never thought that it's supposed to mean "Hey, that really sucks. I wish _____ was still here, and I'm sorry s/he isn't."
Just my rambling thought and may or may not really reflect what you're trying to say.
As far as being phony... I can't do that. I don't know *how* unless I'm deliberately acting in an acting setting. I won't do it. I just find a way to double-meaning something (like "I'm sorry for your loss") then politely take my leave.
Of course, I get to blame it on my Asperger's if I really stick my foot in it. ;-) (j/k - I don't blame it on me being an Aspie, but down the road if someone is pissed at me and I can't fix it, I might bring it up...)
![[-]](https://gayspeak.com/images/duende_v3_local/collapse.png)
