misleading therapist, what do you think

[Bowyn Aerrow]

How do you know you're right when the while world tells you that you are wrong. My father was in my life, he was a big part of it

Really what this comes down to is how do you maintain the strength to not hide in the closet again. It's been so hard lately.

What you have here is a Nike situation:



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Its not easy, even now two decades and change after I officially came out I get the occasional desire to go back in the closet it, shut the door, lock it, board it up, seal it with brick, cover it with 2" steel plate...

It happens.

And it doesn't just happen because homophobes treat you badly.

Right now I am seriously contemplating going into the closet just to keep from going through the mess of being a recently made single gay man and having to do the whole dating mess again. My Gal-pal so badly wants me to go with her to Sacramento (or San Francisco) to get laid... she feels I would be better off with a one night stand or five under my belt....

Going back in sounds easy, sounds safe. And for many of us being in the closet was safe® than being out, so it makes for a 'happy place' to escape to when life starts getting all lumpy and bumpy.

Sometimes it is just plain hard to face life head-on, it happens to all of us. having a 'safe place' to run too always sounds good. And while it is easier in many ways, it does deny us the much needed experience life is throwing at us.

I think one of your problems is you are dedicating yourself 100% to being bisexual for the rest of your life. Stop that.

Instead just decide you will be bisexual and out of the closet for the next 24 hours.

No man can endure a thing that has no end. A life-time of something is unimaginably difficult to deal with, mere 24 hours of doing a thing is far easier.

24 hours from now you can opt in and do it for another 24 hours, or, if you really feel you can't do this, then you can opt-out. Wait and see and don't worry about your choices to opt-in or opt-out tomorrow. Just deal with it today.

Oh, and don't forget to breathe. We are strange creatures, we tend to stop breathing when we need to breathe the most....