10-12-2012, 04:10 PM
Here's my 2 cents worth:
Your boyfriend calls himself "bi" because it's convenient...i say this because every single person i've met or talked to that hates "labels: bi, gay, str8, top, bottom, etc" knows exactly who they are INSIDE but aren't ready to embrace it 100%
I'll cut to the chase: No matter how slow you go, how much lube you use, if he's "clinching" his sphinter, you're NOT going to get in without hurting him. And i'm betting he's clinching because he's afraid if he TRUELY relaxes, he'll find he LOVES bottoming and that must mean he's "gay" and therefor, he has to face a "label" he has fought against for a while.
It's like "str8" guy's who'll mess with guys if there are women around - they get to keep their "hetero" mask on, while enjoying gay sex.
Give it time my friend...he just has to mature into himself.
Your boyfriend calls himself "bi" because it's convenient...i say this because every single person i've met or talked to that hates "labels: bi, gay, str8, top, bottom, etc" knows exactly who they are INSIDE but aren't ready to embrace it 100%
I'll cut to the chase: No matter how slow you go, how much lube you use, if he's "clinching" his sphinter, you're NOT going to get in without hurting him. And i'm betting he's clinching because he's afraid if he TRUELY relaxes, he'll find he LOVES bottoming and that must mean he's "gay" and therefor, he has to face a "label" he has fought against for a while.
It's like "str8" guy's who'll mess with guys if there are women around - they get to keep their "hetero" mask on, while enjoying gay sex.
Give it time my friend...he just has to mature into himself.
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