10-02-2012, 04:05 PM
Bowyn Aerrow:
I'm very aware of the different stages of love. Societal views of love are very unrealistic and media has influenced not only people's wants and desires, but also their expectations. It just seems to me that when things finally reach the last stage of attachment or commitment, that's when everything falls apart. It's not that my partners aren't aware of the different stages, it's more of a disconnect between logical thoughts and irrational emotions. Maybe they're young and inexperienced with love, and they came into the relationship under the assumption that they had it all figured out when they had never really experienced love before. When the emotions hit them, it became a different story. Problems aren't as clear when you're in the thick of it and you have all the emotions clouding your judgement and ability to reason.
I don't think you can really "train" a partner as you're suggesting. All you can do is make them aware of your perspective and beliefs. Love means something different to each person. You should do your best to understand the other person's idea and perception of love in order to satisfy their needs. Love is about mutual understanding and respect, not about training or educating the other person. No two relationships are the same, and neither are any two definitions of love. Age can be helpful, but it doesn't necessarily reflect a person's maturity.
I'm very aware of the different stages of love. Societal views of love are very unrealistic and media has influenced not only people's wants and desires, but also their expectations. It just seems to me that when things finally reach the last stage of attachment or commitment, that's when everything falls apart. It's not that my partners aren't aware of the different stages, it's more of a disconnect between logical thoughts and irrational emotions. Maybe they're young and inexperienced with love, and they came into the relationship under the assumption that they had it all figured out when they had never really experienced love before. When the emotions hit them, it became a different story. Problems aren't as clear when you're in the thick of it and you have all the emotions clouding your judgement and ability to reason.
I don't think you can really "train" a partner as you're suggesting. All you can do is make them aware of your perspective and beliefs. Love means something different to each person. You should do your best to understand the other person's idea and perception of love in order to satisfy their needs. Love is about mutual understanding and respect, not about training or educating the other person. No two relationships are the same, and neither are any two definitions of love. Age can be helpful, but it doesn't necessarily reflect a person's maturity.
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