10-02-2012, 04:55 PM
princealbertofb:
Everyone I've met in person has said similar things to me. The impression they have after having a conversation with me is very different than before. First impressions are based only on what is observable, and someone who's seemingly quiet and doesn't say much can come across as having little or no confidence. Confidence isn't universally applicable either. Just because you're confident in your math abilities doesn't mean you have any confidence with science. I think a lot, and in doing so I am able to defend and provide reasoning's for almost all of my beliefs. This is perceived as confidence to many people. However, just because I'm able to provide a strong defense/reasoning doesn't mean it's fool-proof. Sometimes there are holes that I haven't considered that could make a whole fundamental belief crumble. I don't presume to know what's right and I keep an open mind to strengthen my own beliefs or to change them. That's part of what learning and growing as a person means.
Everyone has their insecurities. It's a part of being human. There are things we're good at and things we're not. I describe myself as shy because that's my personality. I normally don't talk unless spoken to. My default state is to listen rather than talk. I enjoy doing self-reflective things rather than externally stimulated activities. I enjoy close, intimate, and personable interactions instead of group activities. In our society, I'm deemed as shy/timid because I don't shine in group activities or open and public settings. Maybe my application of the word doesn't align with how you define it.
I believe what people find most attractive is my ability to empathize. Being able to empathize alone isn't enough, but I also have a talent for being able to articulate my feelings and thoughts so that the other person can easily understand and interpret them. I change how I communicate and talk with every person I interact with, because I understand people have different ways of saying and interpreting things. A lot of times, I'm able to help people figure out what they're feeling because I'm able to put it into words for them. It's common for people to feel misunderstood and alone, and I think my strengths help alleviate those feelings in others. Most people find that they can connect with me on a level that they've never experienced with someone else, and usually that's where the attraction starts to develop. Again, this is based on the trend I see as a whole from an inside perspective. If I ask other people this same question, I get answers across the board including things such as how easy I am to get along with, how easy I am to talk to, my kindness, my wit, my humor, my uniqueness, etc.
I'm attracted to people with a lot of compassion and drive. I tend to be attracted to those who have strengths where I lack them, someone who complements me and vice versa. I believe the best relationships are made from two people who synergize off of each other. Most people I like are very involved in the community and in leadership roles. They tend to like talking a lot, and be very "lively" characters. I'm not quite sure if that adequately answers your question.
Out of my entourage, I have a female best friend who seems to understands me the best. She's very similar to me in terms of personality quirks. We tend to say the same remarks, form similar opinions, develops similar habits, etc. She's much more extroverted than I am, so she's also a bit like my alter ego. People who don't know us well think we're like night and day but those who know both of us well think we're the same person, or two halves of the same person. Her boyfriend often asks if we rehearse what we say/do because of how freakishly similar it is.
Everyone I've met in person has said similar things to me. The impression they have after having a conversation with me is very different than before. First impressions are based only on what is observable, and someone who's seemingly quiet and doesn't say much can come across as having little or no confidence. Confidence isn't universally applicable either. Just because you're confident in your math abilities doesn't mean you have any confidence with science. I think a lot, and in doing so I am able to defend and provide reasoning's for almost all of my beliefs. This is perceived as confidence to many people. However, just because I'm able to provide a strong defense/reasoning doesn't mean it's fool-proof. Sometimes there are holes that I haven't considered that could make a whole fundamental belief crumble. I don't presume to know what's right and I keep an open mind to strengthen my own beliefs or to change them. That's part of what learning and growing as a person means.
Everyone has their insecurities. It's a part of being human. There are things we're good at and things we're not. I describe myself as shy because that's my personality. I normally don't talk unless spoken to. My default state is to listen rather than talk. I enjoy doing self-reflective things rather than externally stimulated activities. I enjoy close, intimate, and personable interactions instead of group activities. In our society, I'm deemed as shy/timid because I don't shine in group activities or open and public settings. Maybe my application of the word doesn't align with how you define it.
I believe what people find most attractive is my ability to empathize. Being able to empathize alone isn't enough, but I also have a talent for being able to articulate my feelings and thoughts so that the other person can easily understand and interpret them. I change how I communicate and talk with every person I interact with, because I understand people have different ways of saying and interpreting things. A lot of times, I'm able to help people figure out what they're feeling because I'm able to put it into words for them. It's common for people to feel misunderstood and alone, and I think my strengths help alleviate those feelings in others. Most people find that they can connect with me on a level that they've never experienced with someone else, and usually that's where the attraction starts to develop. Again, this is based on the trend I see as a whole from an inside perspective. If I ask other people this same question, I get answers across the board including things such as how easy I am to get along with, how easy I am to talk to, my kindness, my wit, my humor, my uniqueness, etc.
I'm attracted to people with a lot of compassion and drive. I tend to be attracted to those who have strengths where I lack them, someone who complements me and vice versa. I believe the best relationships are made from two people who synergize off of each other. Most people I like are very involved in the community and in leadership roles. They tend to like talking a lot, and be very "lively" characters. I'm not quite sure if that adequately answers your question.
Out of my entourage, I have a female best friend who seems to understands me the best. She's very similar to me in terms of personality quirks. We tend to say the same remarks, form similar opinions, develops similar habits, etc. She's much more extroverted than I am, so she's also a bit like my alter ego. People who don't know us well think we're like night and day but those who know both of us well think we're the same person, or two halves of the same person. Her boyfriend often asks if we rehearse what we say/do because of how freakishly similar it is.
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