10-12-2012, 11:10 PM
I can understand why this is bothersome.
I once enjoyed talking about Disney characters with a handful of people online (I was there maybe 2 weeks) and it somehow got onto Bridge to Terabithia and their inevitable romance had the girl survived. I mentioned the problems of childhood and that if they got together too soon (which they likely would) then one was likely to seriously hurt the other and it could destroy their relationship, and even if they didn't most people grow apart as they grow up (even those early marriages are often called "practice" by the older & cynical for a better marriage later on). That got them to wondering how they could overcome the pitfalls of childhood & immaturity and I'd posted best case scenerio (even if the boy's dad didn't care for it) is that they're both gay, that would probably maximize their chances of being best friends forever. And it was deleted and I got a warning for "trolling." And that reminded me of how many people (unlike me) see being gay as a "bad thing." I never told them that I was gay myself, I just left without a word and years later I still haven't even visited that board even once, because if being gay is so horrible then that meant I'm horrible. (ETA: this board was nearly all adults, the only exception I know of being a high schooler, and was also a few months after BtT came out in 2007, many of them parents upset over the girl dying followed by their kids crying, so it wasn't like I was on a board for kids, and in the warning I got from the site manager there was no "think of the children" message to go along with it.)
And just last night I stumbled across a fail compilation vid and I was puzzled by the very first pic involving a couple of men and several women excited by a male strip dancer, and the only reason I caught it was the words "fail" were on it with circles around the guys. Once it became clear that the ONLY reason they "failed" was because they were guys enjoying a male strip dancer I realized it meant it "failed" to be gay, and that meant the person posting the vid thought I was a failure. At least in this case I didn't know the person at all so I didn't particularly care, I just returned the vid poster's contempt with my own, but had a friend of mine posted that, or someone I work with on a daily basis, then my feelings would've been hurt.
On top of that it's just plain immature and lame (the word some would use is "gay"), you know the kind of humor that appealed to you when you were like 10 but just annoying as an adult (at least that's how I would explain it, some people never outgrow being 10, or even 5).
I once enjoyed talking about Disney characters with a handful of people online (I was there maybe 2 weeks) and it somehow got onto Bridge to Terabithia and their inevitable romance had the girl survived. I mentioned the problems of childhood and that if they got together too soon (which they likely would) then one was likely to seriously hurt the other and it could destroy their relationship, and even if they didn't most people grow apart as they grow up (even those early marriages are often called "practice" by the older & cynical for a better marriage later on). That got them to wondering how they could overcome the pitfalls of childhood & immaturity and I'd posted best case scenerio (even if the boy's dad didn't care for it) is that they're both gay, that would probably maximize their chances of being best friends forever. And it was deleted and I got a warning for "trolling." And that reminded me of how many people (unlike me) see being gay as a "bad thing." I never told them that I was gay myself, I just left without a word and years later I still haven't even visited that board even once, because if being gay is so horrible then that meant I'm horrible. (ETA: this board was nearly all adults, the only exception I know of being a high schooler, and was also a few months after BtT came out in 2007, many of them parents upset over the girl dying followed by their kids crying, so it wasn't like I was on a board for kids, and in the warning I got from the site manager there was no "think of the children" message to go along with it.)
And just last night I stumbled across a fail compilation vid and I was puzzled by the very first pic involving a couple of men and several women excited by a male strip dancer, and the only reason I caught it was the words "fail" were on it with circles around the guys. Once it became clear that the ONLY reason they "failed" was because they were guys enjoying a male strip dancer I realized it meant it "failed" to be gay, and that meant the person posting the vid thought I was a failure. At least in this case I didn't know the person at all so I didn't particularly care, I just returned the vid poster's contempt with my own, but had a friend of mine posted that, or someone I work with on a daily basis, then my feelings would've been hurt.
On top of that it's just plain immature and lame (the word some would use is "gay"), you know the kind of humor that appealed to you when you were like 10 but just annoying as an adult (at least that's how I would explain it, some people never outgrow being 10, or even 5).
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