11-02-2012, 09:34 AM
Hello, Build, and 
to GaySpeak.
I'd say the good thing is that YOU know you're gay, but honestly it's no one else's business how you sail your boat, unless they are part of the crew, and on the boat with you. Why are people asking? Have they noticed that you have never had a girlfriend? Are they in such a hurry to see you have a relationship? Some people like to stay single, for no other reason than they like to be single. How do you feel about being single? Are there other signs that people might have caught on?
You mention being scared, but what are you scared of, to be precise? Are you scared of people really knowing what you're about? If so, why? Do you live in a homophobic environment? Are you just uncomfortable with the idea of finally admitting you are more interested in boys? If you think that it would help to come out to someone, make sure you tell someone that you trust to keep it a secret, a best female friend, your mum, your brother or sister... Once you've told one person, it generally becomes easier to admit it to others.
I've found telling people I've recently met for the first time easier than telling people who've known me for a long time. These new acquaintances have no sexual expectations of a new friend.
In any case, good luck finding the way to tell people. You'll find that it is easier to be you than to pretend being someone else, in the long run.
Take care,
PA
to GaySpeak.I'd say the good thing is that YOU know you're gay, but honestly it's no one else's business how you sail your boat, unless they are part of the crew, and on the boat with you. Why are people asking? Have they noticed that you have never had a girlfriend? Are they in such a hurry to see you have a relationship? Some people like to stay single, for no other reason than they like to be single. How do you feel about being single? Are there other signs that people might have caught on?
You mention being scared, but what are you scared of, to be precise? Are you scared of people really knowing what you're about? If so, why? Do you live in a homophobic environment? Are you just uncomfortable with the idea of finally admitting you are more interested in boys? If you think that it would help to come out to someone, make sure you tell someone that you trust to keep it a secret, a best female friend, your mum, your brother or sister... Once you've told one person, it generally becomes easier to admit it to others.
I've found telling people I've recently met for the first time easier than telling people who've known me for a long time. These new acquaintances have no sexual expectations of a new friend.
In any case, good luck finding the way to tell people. You'll find that it is easier to be you than to pretend being someone else, in the long run.
Take care,
PA
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