How to make up with my boyfriend? I'm desperate.

[Woollyhats]

Well, probably it won't make sense, because then I would have to tell all about his life, but basically he doesn't have very good life experience, his parents were two mean drunks who abused him through his childhood, he has spent few years in prison for a small theft. When he told it to me, he asked me to never remind him about his past. I promised I wouldn't and I did, I told him that he's a criminal and that he should've stayed in prison and that the alcohol from his parents has obviously dissolved his brains as well.

I've never regretted anything more than I regret this.

What a horrible thing to say. When someone has horrible parent(s), the last thing they want is to feel that their parents define who they are.

That said, your boyfriend isn't really being mature in this either.

If you really want to continue trying in this, apologize, and wait. Just don't go begging for forgiveness --- it can be annoying. Make it clear that you're wrong, and you apologize, and that you understand why it was wrong --- sometimes it's important for a person to realize you're apologizing because you've discovered the harm your actions have had on a person, rather than just because they are 'wrong'.

Discover if there's a chance for recovery in your relationship, if possible. If there's not, you may have to look into your own living arrangements...

It may also help him to forgive you by trying to make him happy. It's been awhile, yes? Perhaps cook a large meal for each other, order him a gift, etc., remind him you care. Please don't take this to an extreme --- if it's obvious that he is mute to absolutely all attempts at restoring your relationship, give up, don't waste your breath, time, or money.

Also, I know that I started this post off with something harsh and I'm not sorry, but at the same time, there does come a point where your boyfriend should let you know if he's willing to forgive you and if the relationship is over. Being in the 'limbo' period for weeks upon weeks is not fair, and as much as he may have a reason for it, the 'silent treatment' is not ever an effective way of solving anything. Should it continue for more weeks, you may find yourself realizing you need to break up with him to preserve your sanity.