Is being Gay and open more dangerous now?

[Uneunsae]

I've never been the type to advertise my sexuality or tell anyone I'm gay unless it's relevant to the situation. However, I'm pretty sure many people can tell. LOL Though, I don't think people jump to conclusions as often as we think. Sometimes they probably just think something like, "He seems so gay, but I don't know!" especially since there are so many "metrosexual" men these days.

My real fear is when people can't tell if I'm male or female. I'm intersex/third gender for those of you who don't already know. Yeah, a lot of people couldn't care less, but living in the midwest, I've noticed that not being able to tell someone's gender really freaks some people out and sometimes they can say really hostile things that scare me. So, if I'm out really late, I am with a friend and I would NEVER go to a club by myself - but I don't go clubbing anyways. I really only get scared when I'm surrounded completely by people I don't know and topics that bring my gender and sexuality to attention come up (like sex!). I've been ridiculed, humiliated, and shamed (even by my own family). People even ask to see my body.

Next year, I am moving to San Francisco where my graduate school is so I'll be less worried about things like this.