Addendum To The Threesome Question...

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It's funny how (for some of us) our viewpoints and ideas change about certain things as we grow older.

I was always the monogamous relationship kinda guy with concrete ideals/rules/constructs about how things "should" go...no ifs, ands, or buts, no compromising, etc.

After being in a relationship for five plus years now, that old mindset is basically thrown out of the window. When you really love and care about someone, it's not so easy be so cut and dry about everything. Part of the deal is compromising and tying to understand where your partner is coming from.

If my partner came to me and mentioned the idea of trying a threesome, I would first question what his intentions are, why he wants to do it, etc. just to be sure he's not wanting to jump into something like that for all the WRONG reasons.

At this point in my life, I can honestly say that I would not be opposed to it. But I wouldn't agree to such a thing until I'm sure we're both on the same page, and get all the "housekeeping" done beforehand. Threesome don't seem to be something just any couple can do well without having dead set rules on the table at the start.

tl:dr...your mindset about such things can (and sometimes WILL) change over time. I'm not opposed to the idea, but I will make some inquiries first.

I tend to agree OkayOkay. I used to have such concrete concepts of relationship do's and don'ts. I've been with people who wanted to have things outside of the relationship and spent time talking me into it until I finally gave in. Then they would come back and have a problem with it even though it was their idea if the first place. Go figure! Then again I have been with people that were already doing things like that and did a reversal and didn't want anythng but monogamous. I guess what I learned is that it is really a very individual decision to make and understanding all the possible outcomes of it that could happen later on. I'd be real danged sure (as I have stated before concerning this) that there is a very GOOD line of communication between all individuals BEFORE it happens. Of course not all indivduals think thay way either. I like your detail though. It makes a very valid point.