Addendum To The Threesome Question...

[Virge]

I got led down that road in the early days dating jay with him convincing me it was part of my education. It didn't last long because I educated him by acting like I enjoyed fucking other guys more than him which brought about his first pangs of possessiveness. He's one of those guys who doesn't think anything is a good idea unless he thinks of it first so I always keep my mouth shut and make sure he thinks of it before I do.

I make no judgments against people who do threesomes because of what I call the Bullwinkle Rule from a cartoon where Bullwinkle is trying to save them from drowning in a basement from a busted overhead pipe using some of the craziest danged things left in the basement. Rocky screams out for him to hurry or they'll drown. Bullwinkle snaps, "Shut up I'm doing the best I can with the tools I've got. That statement is true of EVERYONE in everything they do everyday of their lives. Everyone is doing all they can with what they have to work with to make it from one day to the next.

But now that I've said that. Once *he*came*up*with*the*idea* that it was time for us to move away from his idea that were should stop being Friends with benefits and try working on a relationship. I put it right out on the line for him. "you better go ahead and line yourself up with some big Aussie with a big dick just in case you fuck up. Because if you do you'll never see mine again."

That was my first outward show of possessiveness and after that he's been the happiest guy on earth to be owned. Cutting up about sex with others and all that is fun and games --- but for us --- I could never do it and hurt him that way and after the years passed he got around to telling me that if I'd said those words to him earlier he'd have probably stopped messing around and tried monogamy sooner....