Capricorn
08-07-2014, 03:53 PM
People need to learn about personal boundaries. Everyone has a right to set and maintain their own personal boundaries with other people.
This jerk in the car a) tried to seduce you and b) tried to physically make you do things you didn't want to do. He did this even though you had told him you have a boy friend and were only meeting him on a friendly basis, not to mention you had to physically resist his advances.
You should not feel guilty (ever!) for having to maintain your personal boundaries! He obviously manipulated you (used your guilt against you) into a second get-together where he proceeded once again to manipulate and abuse you. THIS IS NOT A GOOD PERSON. He is a lying manipulative predator! Rather than feeling 'guilty' for having to protect yourself, you had every right to feel angry, manipulated and refuse to have any further contact with this man.
Yes, you *have* to tell your BF that this happened. Your biggest mistake was letting it happen a second time. No one knows how he is going to handle this information but you have to tell him.
Beyond that, you need to learn about personal boundaries, what they are and how to maintain them. Unless you are under arrest by an authority, NO ONE has the right to touch you without your permission. No one has the right to keep you in a car without your consent. You have every right to go to the authorities and file a complaint, possibly even press charges for sexual assault. Be clear in your mind, what this man did to you he has probably done to others and will do it again and possibly worse. He has no respect for you whatever. Obviously you should cut off all contact with him. If he persists in contacting you, tell him you will go to the authorities. You must be very clear with him. Despite how he 'seemed' he is NOT a 'nice person'. Period.
This jerk in the car a) tried to seduce you and b) tried to physically make you do things you didn't want to do. He did this even though you had told him you have a boy friend and were only meeting him on a friendly basis, not to mention you had to physically resist his advances.
You should not feel guilty (ever!) for having to maintain your personal boundaries! He obviously manipulated you (used your guilt against you) into a second get-together where he proceeded once again to manipulate and abuse you. THIS IS NOT A GOOD PERSON. He is a lying manipulative predator! Rather than feeling 'guilty' for having to protect yourself, you had every right to feel angry, manipulated and refuse to have any further contact with this man.
Yes, you *have* to tell your BF that this happened. Your biggest mistake was letting it happen a second time. No one knows how he is going to handle this information but you have to tell him.
Beyond that, you need to learn about personal boundaries, what they are and how to maintain them. Unless you are under arrest by an authority, NO ONE has the right to touch you without your permission. No one has the right to keep you in a car without your consent. You have every right to go to the authorities and file a complaint, possibly even press charges for sexual assault. Be clear in your mind, what this man did to you he has probably done to others and will do it again and possibly worse. He has no respect for you whatever. Obviously you should cut off all contact with him. If he persists in contacting you, tell him you will go to the authorities. You must be very clear with him. Despite how he 'seemed' he is NOT a 'nice person'. Period.
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