Looking for advice

[Lexington]

If you don't mind going for broke...as in, you're willing to accept the consequences...then go for broke. Ask if you can talk to him in private, and say "My wife has given me the go-ahead to have sex with another guy. And I'd like you to be that guy. I don't know if you swing that way, but I thought I'd ask." Of course, you might not be as welcome in the store anymore, and he may not want to wait on you after that. But that's the chance you take.

Or, if you want, you can take a more casual approach. Engage him in some more conversation. Ask what he does when he's not at work. Eventually see if you can find out if he has a girlfriend or boyfriend.

Or...why not start from square one. Go online to gay dating or hookup sites, and find somebody there. Then you can skip over the "is he gay?" portion of the game.

Lex