Boyfriend not meeting sexual/intimate needs

[MikeW]

....Am I asking too much to want sex with my boyfriend? ...

Of course not. What we don't know is what this is really all about. Apparently you (two?) don't either. You and the BF need to learn how to communicate about this stuff. How to discuss stuff, get into stuff, without triggering either of you into defensive postures. [MENTION=11919]jimcrackcorn[/MENTION] has put in in perspective. There are hundreds of possible reasons why your BF is behaving as he is... we don't know the full story. It's possible even HE doesn't really know. That is, he's dealing with a psychological issue that is repressed in his own psyche.

One thing I say is it takes two to tangle. That is to say, whatever the problem is, it is apart of the relationship dynamic. It isn't just "his" or "your" problem. It's a problem within the relationship.

How to sort it all out, get to the heart of it so you can move forward? Well... IDK. Maybe you're going to have to see a couples counselor or sex therapist. It may be there IS no simple, easy solution. It may be you're sexually incompatible.

BTW... I think this is the second time this kind of thing has been brought up in the forum here in the past couple weeks. Just saying, this isn't as unusual a scenario as you might think. We humans are complicated creatures. Well, on one level, we're pretty simple, actually, but on other levels we can get very messed up. So sometimes (I really want to say "often") we don't really understand WHY we feel the way we do... we just do. And sometimes there's not much of anything we can do about it. That's a truth most of us don't want to admit.

But at the very least what we can do is know what is true for us... learn how to put that out there clearly... and learn to LISTEN, really, deeply, listen... to what those whom we love and who love us are trying to tell us.