01-14-2016, 06:51 PM
Last night my fiancee of 3 years told me she is miserable and wants to leave me.. we have been living together for 2 1/2 years, raising my children from another relationship together. I don't want us to end. We were supposed to get married back in December 2015 just going down to the court house, but we have continued to put it off...
Backstory-- when we first met I had just broken up with a man I was with for 6 years, who I had my children with, I knew I was gay at 14 and dated girls until my family pressured me to be straight. The first guy I dated got me pregnant at 17 so I stayed with him and 2 kids later I couldn't handle it anymore. I wasn't happy. I am not into men no matter how hard I tried to make myself straight. I tried to stay with him for the kids. He cheated with upwards of 60 girls. He put me down and was abusive. He ended up in prison and I finally left.
I kind of went a little crazy and had some drunken one night stands with a few women.
My current fiancee &I met online through a mutual friend. When we met I was very inexperienced, I had never gone down on anyone male or female. I had never been intimate truly like kissing passionately, affection, ect. For the first few months of our relationship I was scared to touch her in the bedroom but she did go down on me ect ect. I have horrible anxiety on top of all this in general.
She is 5 years older than me, I am 27. She is very experienced and has been in multiple relationshipsources with women.
Here we are 3 years later, we haven't made love in over a month. I work 11 hour days 4 days a week, she is not working but get's pay for being in the military before she got injured and takes care of our home and children.
Finally last night we are in bed starting to make love and she yells at me a few different times saying I mean not doing this or that right and finally stops me and started saying that I never do anything different and we don't work and we can't be together anymore.
I tried to kiss her and just layer next to her and eventually she rolled over to go to bed. I left the room for an hour to cool off and eventually went back in to go to sleep. She got up and went to the couch. I went out there and asked her why she as acting this way and she just went off.
Basically she said she is miserable and depressed and it's my fault. She said I am not sexualenough. She's upset because I never do anything different in the bedroom and I am not affectionate enough in general. I kiss her all the time I lay all over her constantly. Always tell her how much I love her. I feel stupid in the bedroom, all I feel confident in doing is using my hands, I have gone down on her a few times but i feel like i dont know what i am doing. But I guess I am doing something wrong. How can I be more sexual not just during sex? I don't know if anyone out there has any advice for me I would appreciate it. I don't want to lose her I want to marry this woman.
Backstory-- when we first met I had just broken up with a man I was with for 6 years, who I had my children with, I knew I was gay at 14 and dated girls until my family pressured me to be straight. The first guy I dated got me pregnant at 17 so I stayed with him and 2 kids later I couldn't handle it anymore. I wasn't happy. I am not into men no matter how hard I tried to make myself straight. I tried to stay with him for the kids. He cheated with upwards of 60 girls. He put me down and was abusive. He ended up in prison and I finally left.
I kind of went a little crazy and had some drunken one night stands with a few women.
My current fiancee &I met online through a mutual friend. When we met I was very inexperienced, I had never gone down on anyone male or female. I had never been intimate truly like kissing passionately, affection, ect. For the first few months of our relationship I was scared to touch her in the bedroom but she did go down on me ect ect. I have horrible anxiety on top of all this in general.
She is 5 years older than me, I am 27. She is very experienced and has been in multiple relationshipsources with women.
Here we are 3 years later, we haven't made love in over a month. I work 11 hour days 4 days a week, she is not working but get's pay for being in the military before she got injured and takes care of our home and children.
Finally last night we are in bed starting to make love and she yells at me a few different times saying I mean not doing this or that right and finally stops me and started saying that I never do anything different and we don't work and we can't be together anymore.
I tried to kiss her and just layer next to her and eventually she rolled over to go to bed. I left the room for an hour to cool off and eventually went back in to go to sleep. She got up and went to the couch. I went out there and asked her why she as acting this way and she just went off.
Basically she said she is miserable and depressed and it's my fault. She said I am not sexualenough. She's upset because I never do anything different in the bedroom and I am not affectionate enough in general. I kiss her all the time I lay all over her constantly. Always tell her how much I love her. I feel stupid in the bedroom, all I feel confident in doing is using my hands, I have gone down on her a few times but i feel like i dont know what i am doing. But I guess I am doing something wrong. How can I be more sexual not just during sex? I don't know if anyone out there has any advice for me I would appreciate it. I don't want to lose her I want to marry this woman.
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