Going to gay bars alone?

[Camfer]

Yes, you'll be approachable alone in a gay bar/club as long as you're smiling and enjoying yourself. You don't have to drink alcohol. You can drink a soda and only the bartender will know there's no alcohol in it.

Being shy doesn't make you a loser.

It's pretty easy, you just make eye contact with people. You don't have to say anything. Non-verbal communication is very effective. If you look approachable, you are approachable.

Then if someone talks to you and you're interested, you do your best to keep the conversation going.

As you get more comfortable, you might even find it's more effective for you to say hi to someone you want to talk to. All you do is walk up and say, "Hi, I'm _________." It really is just three words.

Get used to some rejection. You are not interested in everyone who is interested in you, so don't get upset if you're interested in someone who's not interested in you.

Learn the bartender's name and the front doorman's name. These are people who can prove to be helpful to you in a variety of situations.