Going to gay bars alone?

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Just be aware that if you're shy who lets others come to him (or her, tends to work this way regardless of whether you're male or female), the ones most likely to approach you are those who are constantly looking for fresh meat rather than a partner.

They can typically be identified by telling you exactly what you want to hear (and some are experts at feeling you out and finding what to say to get what they want, and some even trade tips with each other on how to get into your pants), and what you'd expect more in a the romance genre filed under fiction rather than anyone's true life story. I can only guess that people fall for it over and over because they want it to be true so bad. This may mean that the relatively rare decent guy you may prefer won't be the one you go home with as he's not the one telling you the lies you want to believe as the decent guy has too much respect for you to do that.

I'm just saying this because there are hordes of men and women who go out as wallflowers waiting for the bees to come to them and then end up crying about how everyone uses them for sex and loses them and come to think all men are pigs rather than they're picking the wrong ones over and over. But if you're just after a little fun rather than love then this doesn't apply to you.