04-27-2016, 12:27 AM
Okey I'm new to this forum so I do something incorrectly I'm sorry.
So this is my problem, back about 1 year ago I meet this guy and we had what I thought as an mutual interest in each other. He would be quiet nervous around me and I would be as well but we both didn't know the other was gay. We were in the internets words pretty 'masc', but it seemed like he was interested in me but neither of us wanted to make a move.
We only saw each other for about 9 times during the whole summer and then one day we never saw each other again. Then one day October I found him on Tinder and swiped right, I wasn't to surprised and I was at least glad my gaydar wasn't bad. I didn't even get a match until a month after, I kind forgot about it after such a long time. I sent him a message and he took about 3 days to respond I really don't like waiting but I just let it go. That was the month of November we took about a month to have a conversation with each other because of his slow response skills but I had him on Facebook so I knew he was on the internet because he would constantly post something. I didn't think he really was interested until one day he sent me his number because he wanted to text instead. I just went for it and asked him out over text, i got no response. I just let it slide and forgot about thinking he was never interested in the first place. Another month passed by and I got drunk and started messaging random things to a lot of people on tinder, not for sex just to mess with them like have you seen waldo type of stuff. I messaged him and he responded. He asked me out to lunch, and yet again asked me if I wanted to start texting. I was confused but I said yes. I texted him again and he finally saw my inital message and said yes to it and said sorry he didn't notice it originally. After that we went on an actual good date, it was quite nice actually we went to tea house and it seemed like he was having a good time. He even told me we should go out again in the following week. I agreed and said we should play billiards, he messaged me the night before the second date to move to next friday. I agreed, I didn't think to much of it because he changed the date and time and he was texting me constantly. He did that the following week again and wanted to change the date for the next month because it was already around christmas time and he had to go home for the holidays.
I agreed again but he just stopped texting me during the holiday and when he came back he told me he'll get back to me. That was the last time I texted him because I honestly wasn't that interested anymore.
Around april I needed a text book and I knew he had it so I texted him if he would sell the textbook to me. What he did was say he sold it already but also asked we could start seeing each other again in the summer. I said we'll see what happens and asked if we can grab brunch before the semester ends, which is 3 weeks. I told him yes sure why not we can grab it this weekend, I haven't gotten a reply in 3 days.
I've asked many of my friends but they've never had an issue like this. I'm just confused am I to direct, is dating this slow in the gay world? Can some shine some light on this?
We are both college students, we are out to our initial friends. I'm not sure about his family but I'm not out to my family
Sorry for so many words I also need to rant just because I've never had anything like this happen to me. I'm a pretty direct person.
So this is my problem, back about 1 year ago I meet this guy and we had what I thought as an mutual interest in each other. He would be quiet nervous around me and I would be as well but we both didn't know the other was gay. We were in the internets words pretty 'masc', but it seemed like he was interested in me but neither of us wanted to make a move.
We only saw each other for about 9 times during the whole summer and then one day we never saw each other again. Then one day October I found him on Tinder and swiped right, I wasn't to surprised and I was at least glad my gaydar wasn't bad. I didn't even get a match until a month after, I kind forgot about it after such a long time. I sent him a message and he took about 3 days to respond I really don't like waiting but I just let it go. That was the month of November we took about a month to have a conversation with each other because of his slow response skills but I had him on Facebook so I knew he was on the internet because he would constantly post something. I didn't think he really was interested until one day he sent me his number because he wanted to text instead. I just went for it and asked him out over text, i got no response. I just let it slide and forgot about thinking he was never interested in the first place. Another month passed by and I got drunk and started messaging random things to a lot of people on tinder, not for sex just to mess with them like have you seen waldo type of stuff. I messaged him and he responded. He asked me out to lunch, and yet again asked me if I wanted to start texting. I was confused but I said yes. I texted him again and he finally saw my inital message and said yes to it and said sorry he didn't notice it originally. After that we went on an actual good date, it was quite nice actually we went to tea house and it seemed like he was having a good time. He even told me we should go out again in the following week. I agreed and said we should play billiards, he messaged me the night before the second date to move to next friday. I agreed, I didn't think to much of it because he changed the date and time and he was texting me constantly. He did that the following week again and wanted to change the date for the next month because it was already around christmas time and he had to go home for the holidays.
I agreed again but he just stopped texting me during the holiday and when he came back he told me he'll get back to me. That was the last time I texted him because I honestly wasn't that interested anymore.
Around april I needed a text book and I knew he had it so I texted him if he would sell the textbook to me. What he did was say he sold it already but also asked we could start seeing each other again in the summer. I said we'll see what happens and asked if we can grab brunch before the semester ends, which is 3 weeks. I told him yes sure why not we can grab it this weekend, I haven't gotten a reply in 3 days.
I've asked many of my friends but they've never had an issue like this. I'm just confused am I to direct, is dating this slow in the gay world? Can some shine some light on this?
We are both college students, we are out to our initial friends. I'm not sure about his family but I'm not out to my family
Sorry for so many words I also need to rant just because I've never had anything like this happen to me. I'm a pretty direct person.
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