Why So Many Flakes?

[InbetweenDreams]

I agree with Mike... it's all odds and numbers and as long as you insist on staying in a small town, your chances diminish drastically. And that's even IF you lower your standards to rock bottom. What do you have against moving? Just how small is your town?

The county I live in has 10,000 people in it. The neighboring counties have more but nothing drastic.

The only things that are keeping me from moving are:

1. Money, need to pay off debt and save money -- hard to do both at the same time.
2. Job -- I have a good job and if I were to move I would need to stay in the state and stay in the state system I'm in.
3. Family -- Without getting into a long discussion my mother is in bad health, has been for a long time. My folks are kind of, well, dumb when it comes to taking care of themselves...I guess I'm likely going to end up taking care of them since no one else is will and unfortunately not my choice but probably the right thing to do.

I have no intention of lowering my standards. At the same time I also realize that I'm not exactly what a lot of guys are looking for either. I mean when you think of a 29 year old who lives with family you tend to think loser bum...although I read that is becoming more of a norm and other cultures a lot of folks don't move out until they're well into their 30's.

But otherwise I don't have problems with moving. I don't think I could deal with inner city life, I can deal with suburbs and say medium sized cities. I would hate it having to deal with daily traffic jams and such.