Sexuality and Settling Down

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Most people used to find their partners in a work or study or religious situation or context, sometimes a family context (a wedding, or reunion or some such gathering), the rest was done through social groups (such as the ones I described). Some people used to go (still go?) to bars, discos and events which somehow seem to be places where people can bond, but these days it certainly is the connected world that brings us most of our interactions.

Don't have any expectations from any of these potential meeting places.
If it doesn't work going to a disco or bar or religious service, if it doesn't work going online, if it doesn't work through the work or study place, there's bound to be some social situation where you will meet people, men and women, some of whom you will get on with. The old double dating plan is just one way of doing it, speed dating was another. For all you know you'll meet someone completely out of the blue, quite randomly when you weren't actually looking (or didn't realise that you were looking). The only thing is to be ready to go out and meet people and connect with them.

The last two trips I took on the plane were just fun as I got speaking to my fellow passengers of the same row on one flight (one Portuguese student and another a maths teacher in the Middle East) and helped an older lady with her suitcase on the second, offering to put it in the luggage hold for her as it was very heavy. We ended up having a long conversation on the rest of the time the trip took. All it takes is to engage in some polite or helpful way and then you're away.