Sexuality and Settling Down

[InbetweenDreams]

@axle2152, since you've ''been there, done that'', I think you are right to start considering moving to a bigger place. Can you do that? Do you have any connections in a bigger city, friend, family, former workmate or school friend that you could join for a while, to make the transition easier, or do you think you'd have to move out completely on your own? What qualifications do you have in the workplace, and how could you make the most of your skills in a new job? Think about finding a new job in a new place then move there? What are your options? It seems you need a change of scenery.

I do have a sister who lives across the state near the coast and it is much more populated. I did have plans to try to move out there but every job offer fell through. Right now I have a pretty good job at a community college and hoping something might open up towards that direction. A change of scenery would be nice. There are two main reasons I never moved out, well, 3. First I never made enough money, until recently. I'm not very trusting of just finding a roommate so I had the idea of not ever getting into a place I couldn't afford myself, sounds like a smart idea. I have heard nothing but horror stories about landlords and roommate and everything getting screwed over. My sister's house that she rented got foreclosed on a few days before Christmas and had like 2-3 months to get out and move...luckily it worked out for them.

In the back of my mind I was hoping to have met someone by now or came into a situation where I would have ended up being roommates with or something. Looking for that island of stability -- which you and I both know doesn't really exist.

All these older people you hang out with, don't they have younger sons and daughters? Or nephews and nieces? What about letting them know that you are looking for something serious? Someone may know someone...

Most of these folks are republicans! Secondly a lot of them have sons and daughters who live somewhere else in the country. Most of the folks are up here retired from places like Florida and so forth.