Sagittarius
08-10-2016, 11:29 PM
[MENTION=23180]axle2152[/MENTION], OY!, you are such a thinker and such a complicated guy that it is hard to know what to say. Of course sex is not black and white. It would be pretty dull if it were. It strikes me that you may be doing the am I gay or am I bi thing just to express to yourself your anxiousness over the whole situation of lack of sex, companionship and emotional outlet. You are a neat fellow in a part of the world that is extremely beautiful and with a rich but insular history. I could go on and on, but I think I will be very direct and just give you a list. Please react if you like. Reading what you have to say about damn near everything is always interesting.
1. Your desire to reduce your debt is a GREAT idea. Keep at it. It not only makes good money sense, it will increase you sense of security and flexibility.
2. You need to move. Facing the culture shock as well as the job challenge is rough work, but you have personal needs which are not going to be satisfied in your area. I am not just talking about relationships, I am thinking of intellectual and experiential needs. There is a big world out there and it will enrich your fine mind. Don't miss the chance. Have you made yourself aware of where to look for jobs in your present field elsewhere. Colorado might be neat, but it is not a liberal as you might think. Try Portland Oregon or Seattle or even Richmond VA if you like beer. The breweries are coming out of the woodwork! When you move, by the way, don't forget to factor in the cost of living in the new area.
3. Keep on doing stuff. You get to explore what you like. You get to meet people. You get outside of your shell. Set up a small budget for entertainment and go for it. Did you know there are bike clips that do not require special shoes? I have them. They are not great but they do help. We are beset at every turn these days by commercialism but you can resist and still have fun. Does your town have a park or a place where people jog? How about volunteering or a civic club?
4. Look at your debt with a very strong set of glasses. Ask some ruthless questions. Assuming that you are not expecting some sort of windfall from a rich uncle, you must make more or spend less, preferably both. Yes, you need some money for entertainment and the basics of food clothing and shelter, but where can you find pennies and dollars to put to good use. Do you list all of your debts so that you always know what is due when? Is everything paid on time? Have you tried keeping a detailed list of every cent you spend for a couple of months to give a good picture of where your money goes? Does all of your pocket change go into our savings account? Is you loan with the highest interest the one that is given priority when you have a few dollars to pay extra? Are you saving for retirement? Even $20 a month can add up over 40 years. All these questions about money are meant to guide you to evaluating how much flexibility you can muster.
5. All there questions are not meant to be answered here online. They are just thinking points. You think a lot. It is written all over you. Put it to good use on you own behalf.
Finally, please PM me or any of the good guys above if you have specific questions. I am constantly amazed at how people here want to exchange ideas and help others. Too bad we don't all live close by!
Best to you!
1. Your desire to reduce your debt is a GREAT idea. Keep at it. It not only makes good money sense, it will increase you sense of security and flexibility.
2. You need to move. Facing the culture shock as well as the job challenge is rough work, but you have personal needs which are not going to be satisfied in your area. I am not just talking about relationships, I am thinking of intellectual and experiential needs. There is a big world out there and it will enrich your fine mind. Don't miss the chance. Have you made yourself aware of where to look for jobs in your present field elsewhere. Colorado might be neat, but it is not a liberal as you might think. Try Portland Oregon or Seattle or even Richmond VA if you like beer. The breweries are coming out of the woodwork! When you move, by the way, don't forget to factor in the cost of living in the new area.
3. Keep on doing stuff. You get to explore what you like. You get to meet people. You get outside of your shell. Set up a small budget for entertainment and go for it. Did you know there are bike clips that do not require special shoes? I have them. They are not great but they do help. We are beset at every turn these days by commercialism but you can resist and still have fun. Does your town have a park or a place where people jog? How about volunteering or a civic club?
4. Look at your debt with a very strong set of glasses. Ask some ruthless questions. Assuming that you are not expecting some sort of windfall from a rich uncle, you must make more or spend less, preferably both. Yes, you need some money for entertainment and the basics of food clothing and shelter, but where can you find pennies and dollars to put to good use. Do you list all of your debts so that you always know what is due when? Is everything paid on time? Have you tried keeping a detailed list of every cent you spend for a couple of months to give a good picture of where your money goes? Does all of your pocket change go into our savings account? Is you loan with the highest interest the one that is given priority when you have a few dollars to pay extra? Are you saving for retirement? Even $20 a month can add up over 40 years. All these questions about money are meant to guide you to evaluating how much flexibility you can muster.
5. All there questions are not meant to be answered here online. They are just thinking points. You think a lot. It is written all over you. Put it to good use on you own behalf.
Finally, please PM me or any of the good guys above if you have specific questions. I am constantly amazed at how people here want to exchange ideas and help others. Too bad we don't all live close by!
Best to you!
I bid NO Trump!
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